Au Pair Tips
These are common issues/concerns that some au pairs have and suggestions on how to avoid them.
My name is Terry Bellus and I have been an Au Pair in America Community Counselor in Virginia, since 2000. My service area includes: Fairfax County: Fairfax, Springfield, Lorton, Fairfax Station and Alexandria. Enjoy my blog!!
These are common issues/concerns that some au pairs have and suggestions on how to avoid them.
April 21, 2014
Millions of people suffer from allergies every spring, including many children. In fact, according to the National Institute of Allergy and Infectious Diseases, about 40 percent of children in the United States suffer from allergic rhinitis, also known as hay fever.
Hay fever is triggered by breathing in allergens, like pollen, commonly found in springtime air. Sneezing and nasal congestion are some of the most common symptoms, but your symptoms can vary depending on the types of plants that grow where you live.
The following tips will help you minimize seasonal allergies in children, and learn more about allergy treatments.
If your child suffers from seasonal allergies, there are steps you can take to reduce their symptoms and decrease the use of medications:
Medicine can help alleviate allergy symptoms in children, but with any medication you give your child, be sure you’re using the right medication for your child’s age and weight. Follow the instructions carefully to be sure your child gets the correct dosage.
Over-the-counter, generic allergy medication is effective for many people and can cost less than prescription allergy medications. If you have any questions about what medications are right for your child, ask your family doctor.
Some common allergy medications include:
April 19, 2014
Did You Know???-
- Over 65% of Au Pair in America families repeat with us.
- Au Pair in America Community Counselors are experienced, the average years of service of 9 years. – I have been with Au Pair in America for over 12 years!!!
- Au Pair in America customer service surveys results show that 94% of Au Pair in America families would recommend the program to a friend
- Placement surveys from repeat and new families indicate that 96% feel Au Pair in America placement service is excellent or very good.
- Almost 1,000 Au Pair in America families are referred to us last year by another family.
- Au Pair in America is the ONLY au pair program to have partnerships with American Red Cross and AAA
Remember: Use pen and don’t leave extra blank space where someone can make changes.
If you don’t have a checking account and need to make a payment by check, you have two other options: money order or cashier’s check (bank check.) Money orders are available for purchase at your bank, the post office or the customer service desk of some retail stores (CVS, Safeway, WalMart.) You will be charged a small fee, $1.50-$5. Money orders need to be paid for with cash (not credit cards.) You will fill out the money order similarly to a check and keep your receipt portion for your records.
April 9, 2014
Here are 10 tips to incorporate Positive Childcare into your day. These tips are written by: C. McCrory.
When a child begins to get bored, their little bodies wander, and often into trouble or mischief. It is important to make sure you keep the children busy with different things to do if they cannot occupy themselves alone, or until they are able to entertain themselves. Keeping a list of quick and easy activities or games is a good idea to avoid rushing to find something to occupy little ones. If they are busy with the right activities, you’ll avoid potential misbehaviour and mess.
Positivity leads to smiles, not sadness. Children look up to adults around them for approval and examples, which is why encouraging them is so important. When children do something right, well or good, make sure you awknoledge that right away. Your positive comments and encouragement will make them want to repeat that behaviour and act in a way which is pleasing to you. You will also be building their self-esteem and confidence, leading to stronger little individuals.
When children take positive and appropriate actions, rewards them where needed. In contrast, do not use a reward as an encouragement to do something. The reward should be a positive surprise, not an incentive to do something. This is in fact bribing, and it is not constructive. In addition, the reward is best to be non-material, such as an shared activity, not a ‘thing’ like a toy. You want positive actions to become first nature, without them expecting anything in consequence.
Be attentive to what children express to you, especially if they share something that is bad, negative, scary or worrisome to them. You want to react in a positive and supportive way so that the child continue to trust you and share with you. If you have a negative reaction, this will deter the child from coming to you in the future. A strong relationship of trust can be built with children and the importance of this in their live is significant and necessary.
Boundaries are essential to a child’s development and understanding. Setting limits serves the purpose of protecting a child, helping then understand rules and creating a sense of safety. By nature, as little as they are, they will still challenge these boundaries, and it is essential that you maintain these and remain consistent in what you say. Over time, children will challenge what you say and do less and less as they better understand that you mean what you say.
Children may have little eyes and ears, but they still take it all in. They are constantly watching you and listening to what you say to them or others. As adults are examples to them, they will mimic certain behaviours they see you do, which is why it is so important that you behave in way you would want them to behave. Be as attentive to your own behaviour as you are to theirs.
Also part of “teaching by example,” you do not want to let your anger cause you to react in a way you do not want children to mimic or witness. If you are angry in a way that is affecting your thought process and behaviour, then take a step back and wait before reacting. Conversation can occur once you have regained your calm and discipline can take place once you mind is clear.
Looking after children is not easy, in fact many say it is one of the most challenging job in the world. It can, at times, be exhausting, draining, frustrating and overwhelming. The best you can do is to do the best that you can, don’t try to be perfect because no one is. Parenting and caring for children is a challenge, one that you should not be afraid to ask for help with. Whatever you do, don’t get overwhelmed, and take it one day at a time!
Discipline is an amazing thing that will build good, well behaved and understanding children. This is not the shouting, screaming, violent or threatening kind of discipline, this is the healthy, constructive, clear and reasoned discipline. They key is to be calm, clear and consistent (the 3 C’s of Discipline) to help children understand the reason why they are being punished, how they are being punished and that this means you care about them. Find a strategy that works for your household and carry it out when necessary, following the 3 C’s.
Some people have a natural tendency to shy away from emotions and closeness, but this is an essential element of childcare. Children need love, comfort, warmth and protection. Do not be afraid of showing this to them by playing with them, taking time for them, hugs, kind words and holding their hand. Be aware and attentive of their emotional needs and do your best to meet them.
This is another common question, since the way people address mail around the world varies. Here is an image of where to put the information when you are sending mail in the United States.
These tips are not intended to scare you, but to make you aware of some simple things you can do to prevent being the victim of a crime.
It is important to think carefully before asking your host parents to allow you to invite guests, especially friends of family who may come stay for a week or more.
There are many host families who would not feel comfortable with allowing that and will say no. If they say no, you need to do your best to accept that and not pout or have a bad attitude about it. Remember, it is their home and when they invited you to join them, they were not planning on turning it into a youth hostel.
There are others who might not feel comfortable, but they want to be kind, so they say yes. In those situations, it can hurt your relationship, because they may resent being put in that position. You may get to have your friend come stay with you, but if it hurts your relationship with your host family and leads to a rematch, is that worth it?
There are a small number of families that are happy to allow you to welcome guests throughout the year and have no problem with it. That is a very small number and if your host family is one of them, show them how much you appreciate it their hospitality.
Also, consider how you plan to account for your time during the visit? Will you use your vacation time or do you plan to work and just visit on your off hours? If you plan to work, keep in mind that during work hours childcare should remain your number one focus. I have seen situations where au pairs are too excited about their guest to do their job as well as they normally would. In those cases, the family is giving up a lot. They are allowing guests to stay in their home and accepting a lower level of work performance during the visit. Be aware of that and do your best to carry out your duties and show your host parents that you appreciate their actions.
If you are working during the visit, one way you can avoid letting your work slide, is to encourage your guests to go out and do things while you are working. Since you are familiar with the area you have been living in, you can act as a tour guide. Give them information on places that you have visited with other au pairs and maybe gone for cluster meetings. Since you have already seen these places, you will not be missing out, if they go there while you are working. Then, you are free to visit new places with them in your off hours.
Remember – honest communication, flexibility, gratitude and consideration will make all the difference when dealing with your host parents on inviting guests.
March 24, 2014
If you are planning to travel outside the U.S. during your first year, your DS 2019 will need a travel validation signature. See “Travel Links for Au Pairs” on the side of this page for link to the Travel Validation Request Form. At least 3 weeks before you travel, you should print this form and send it along with your original DS-2019 form and a self-addressed stamped envelope (so your signed DS 2019 may be returned to you) to the following address.
Au Pair in America
9 West Broad Street
Stamford, CT 06902
Attn.: Evelyn Blum
You will also need to check whether you need a visa to enter the country you intend to visit. I have a link for Visiting Canada. Other countries requirements can be found by doing a Google search such as “visitor requirement Mexico.” Obtaining a tourist visa is solely the responsibility of the au pair.
Extension Au Pairs: In your extension year, travel outside the U.S. is restricted. Please contact me before making any plans to travel outside the U.S. in your extension year.
Have a great trip!
March 14, 2014
Pi, Greek letter (), is the symbol for the ratio of the circumference of a circle to its diameter. Pi Day is celebrated by math enthusiasts around the world on March 14th. Pi = 3.1415926535…
With the use of computers, Pi has been calculated to over 1 trillion digits past the decimal. Pi is an irrational and transcendental number meaning it will continue infinitely without repeating. The symbol for pi was first used in 1706 by William Jones, but was popular after it was adopted by the Swiss mathematician Leonhard Euler in 1737.
February 26, 2014
How to Say Goodbye
The English word “goodbye” is derived from the pharse “God be with you.” Parting words in other languages are similar. In Spanish, it’s adios (ah-dee-ohs), in French adieu (ah-dyur). Both words literally mean “to God”.
There are other ways to “goodbye”, howver. English children shout “Cheerio” when parting and in Switzerland. Germany and Italy they say ciao (chow) which is the informal way of saying “goodbye” in Italian.
A wave of the hand accompanies most goodbyes, at least in the West. In Japan, people bow when they part, and Hindus press their hands together and say “Namaste”, just as they do when greeting one another.
In some households, in India, it’s considered a bad omen to say “goodbye”. Instead people say, “go and come back”. If you are the one leaving , you announce, “I’m going and I will be back.”
How many languages can you teach your host kids to say “goodbye”. Amaze your host parents at by having the kids say goodbye from around the world at the dinner table.
Here is video to get you started: