{"id":85,"date":"2012-09-20T20:52:11","date_gmt":"2012-09-21T00:52:11","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blogs.aupairinamerica.com\/atr\/2012\/09\/20\/fast-ways-to-stop-temper-tantrums-tips-for-aupairs\/"},"modified":"2012-09-20T20:52:11","modified_gmt":"2012-09-21T00:52:11","slug":"fast-ways-to-stop-temper-tantrums-tips-for-aupairs","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blogs.aupairinamerica.com\/atr\/2012\/09\/20\/fast-ways-to-stop-temper-tantrums-tips-for-aupairs\/","title":{"rendered":"Fast Ways to Stop Temper Tantrums, Tips for aupairs!"},"content":{"rendered":"

Toddlers are famous for tantrums, so when fits erupt, it’s wise to have some tried-and-true tricks to tame toddler tantrums.<\/h2>\n

http:\/\/www.whattoexpect.com<\/strong><\/p>\n

Yuk It Up<\/strong><\/p>\n

Method:<\/strong> See a toddler tantrum coming on? Quick, Mom, tame that tantrum with fun<\/a> by doing something silly! Your darling won\u2019t stand still for a diaper change? Put the (clean) diaper on your head. He refuses to drink his milk? Pick up a banana and make a phone call. He\u2019s losing it for no apparent reason? Climb under the table with a book. Whoever heard of Mommy reading under the table?<\/p>\n

Why it works:<\/strong> Laughter releases all sorts of feel-good chemicals in the brain and stifles the stress-causing ones. The best thing about getting a toddler to giggle is that it\u2019s not all that hard. Tots find the unexpected especially funny, so doing something outside the usual routine will more often than not distract yours long enough to diffuse his tantrum<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Shhh\u2026<\/h3>\n

Method<\/strong>:<\/strong> Your toddler is screaming<\/a> at the top of his lungs. Instead of trying to out-yell him, start whispering. (Tip: This will work only if he\u2019s looking at you.)<\/p>\n

Why it works:<\/strong> As soon as your toddler realizes you\u2019re talking, he\u2019ll probably quiet down to try to figure out why you\u2019re using your library voice. Just make sure to be saying something soothing: \u201cAs soon as you calm down, Mommy will help you find the missing puzzle piece,\u201d or \u201cI\u2019m sorry you\u2019re so mad. Why don\u2019t we go for a walk?\u201d Don\u2019t rely on this trick too often though. Your child will eventually be on to your wily, whispery ways.<\/p>\n

Give Him the Cold Shoulder<\/h3>\n

Method:<\/strong> The next time you\u2019re face-to-face with a toddler tantrum, try ignoring the frantic antics and carry on with what you\u2019re doing \u2014 you can even hum or sing loudly so he really gets the message. As long as he isn\u2019t doing anything that could be harmful to his surroundings (throwing toys) or himself (running toward the street), this can be a highly effective way to stop temper tantrums.<\/p>\n

Why it works:<\/strong> <\/strong>Much of the drama may be a bit of an act. Yes, your toddler is legitimately frustrated, but at the same time, he also knows that when he cries or fusses he\u2019ll be tended to: So he may use that knowledge as an attention-getting device. By now you know your child like the back of your hand, so don\u2019t ignore him if he\u2019s feeling especially sensitive or is going through a stressful time (his new baby sib is taking up most of your attention).<\/p>\n

Go on Autopilot<\/h3>\n

Method:<\/strong> It\u2019s T-minus ten \u2019til dinnertime, but your toddler has his eye on the cookie jar. When you say no, he pitches a fit. Your response should be to repeat the rule, over, and over, and over: \u201cWe don\u2019t eat cookies before dinner. We don\u2019t eat cookies before dinner.\u201d<\/p>\n

Why it works:<\/strong> <\/strong>Basically, saying the same words over and over will bore the tantrum out of him. The trick is to be as consistent (don\u2019t change any of the words) and as calm as possible. Keep your voice even and your face neutral. He\u2019ll understand that you mean business, and see that he can\u2019t get a rise \u2014 or a cookie \u2014 out of you before dinner.<\/p>\n

Get Your Game On<\/h3>\n

Method:<\/strong> As soon as you see that temper start to rise, try to engage your wee whiner in a toddler game<\/a>. That doesn\u2019t have to mean dragging out Candy Land, but rather distracting him with a simple activity like I Spy, which works great in places like the DMV, airport, or any other place where waiting is involved.<\/p>\n

Why it works:<\/strong> <\/strong>Playing a game works on two levels. First of all, it\u2019s a fun distraction. Whatever is bugging your babe will likely take a backseat to the chance to have some fun with Mommy. Which is the second point: Often a tantrum is as much a cry for attention as it is a response to being frustrated or bored or angry or tired. Just be warned \u2014 timing is everything: This method works best to put the brake on a toddler tantrum if you use it just as your cutie starts to lose composure. If you wait until he\u2019s having a full-blown screaming fit, it\u2019ll be too tough to calm him down to play.<\/p>\n

Hold On<\/h3>\n

Method:<\/strong> <\/strong>Pick him up and hug him firmly but gently.<\/p>\n

Why it works:<\/strong> When a tantrum morphs from a minor meltdown to a full-blown screaming fit, no amount of silliness or reasoning or even non-reaction on your part is going to do the trick. If he\u2019s that upset, he won\u2019t be able to see you or hear you, so relying on the power of your touch can be soothing, especially since losing control can be scary for a little kid. That\u2019s why being wrapped in your loving arms can calm down a crazed critter. (Sometimes a little hug therapy is the best way of all to tame a toddler tantrum \u2014 it\u2019ll melt any anger or frustration you have, too.)<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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