By John J. Edwards III
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- Will she be as good as Mary Poppins?
My wife and I have made a momentous child-care decision: We’re switching from a full-time babysitter to an au pair.
In the au pair program, young women age 18 to 26 come to the U.S. to spend a year or more living with an American family and providing child care, in exchange for a modest stipend and some tuition help. Our interest in the program doesn’t stem from any deficiency in our kids’ current care: We’ve had the same babysitter for almost nine years, since our 10-year-old daughter was 1½ (and our 7-year-old son’s whole life), and she’s been wonderful with them and unfailingly reliable.
But an au pair costs less—a lot less. Even after spending some money on renovations to create a bedroom for our new guest/employee, we’ll save many thousands of dollars a year.
Beyond that, we’re excited about our kids having a caregiver who’s more hands-on and energetic than their current one, who’s in vibrant health but is a rather reserved woman in her late 50s. When they go to the pool on summer afternoons, for example, the au pair might actually get in and splash around with them. And, of course, having a houseguest from a foreign land should be a great cultural experience for the whole family.
So, we sat down with the current sitter last week and explained our plan, making sure to emphasize that we’ll actively help her find a new position in the next few months and will make sure to keep her a part of the kids’ lives. She took it well—that reserved personality helps in avoiding big emotional scenes.
After she left for the night, we told the kids. They both cried at first—the older one quietly, the younger one wailing for a bit—but they both came around as we started looking at potential au pairs’ videos on the service’s website (http://www.aupairinamerica.com/). We’ve already found a few who look appealing, and we’ll be starting the evaluation and interview process soon with an eye toward having someone arrive in May.
We’ll do the interviews via Skype, first the two of us, then with the kids if we might be interested in moving forward. When we eventually decide to “match” with an au pair (and she with us), we won’t meet her in person until she arrives in the States, but we’re confident we’ll know her well enough from the conversations and the copious supporting materials.
We’re a little nervous about the unknowns of sharing our far-from-huge house with someone, but the placement of her room should afford plenty of nighttime privacy for her and for us. And the advantages in schedule flexibility and cost savings will go a long way in helping us get comfortable with the idea.
I’ll check in with posts from time to time about our progress through the experience. For now, readers, do any of you have au pair experiences to share, either your own or from friends? Would you consider an au pair for your own child care?
