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School is Starting – Be Safe at the Bus Stop

SchoolBus1. Be on time to the bus stop so that you and your host kids get there safely.

2. Walk and hold hands to the stop.

3. Stand on the sidewalk or the grass, not in the street.

4. Wait until the bus comes to a complete stop before the children walk to the door.

5. Let the bus driver open the door. Do not try to push it open.

6. Remind the children to sit on the bus and not stand. If there are seat belts, remind them to put them on.

7. Let the bus leave before you do, just in case there is a problem.

8. Be at the afternoon return bus stop in plenty of time, before it comes. There are times when it will be early.

9. The driver is not allowed to let small children off the bus unless someone greets them, so if you are not there the children will be taken back to school. BE THERE.

10. The bus driver will not leave until you are safely on your side of the street, so if you need to cross the street, do it in front of the bus.

September is Baby Safety Month

Baby

  • Check the condition and sturdiness of toys. Discard any with sharp edges or if they are broken or falling apart.
  • Check children’s clothing for loose buttons and strings.
  • Is baby’s pacifier still in good condition? If not, toss it. Never use strings to attach the pacifier to baby’s clothes or crib.
  • Where do you set baby’s carrier when she’s in it? Not on the counter, or any high surface. Babies can wiggle and tip themselves over.
  • Walkers can be dangerous (especially old ones that don’t meet today’s safety standards), they allow baby to move very quickly and reach things they normally can’t. Never use one around stairs.
  • Stroller check. If your stroller is collapsible, be sure latches are secure before putting baby in. Always check that your child’s arms are out of the way when reversing handle directions so they won’t get pinched. Be sure to use that safety strap. Don’t hang overloaded or heavy bags on the handle of the stroller; this may cause it to tip over.
  • Can you name the 12 most common choking foods for kids under five? Popcorn, hot dogs, chunks of meat, raisins, ice cubes, chunky peanut butter, nuts of any kind, hard candy, grapes, raw carrots, potato chips and corn chips. Don’t ever leave toddlers alone while eating; if they begin to choke you need to be nearby to assist.
  • Get a piggy bank: this is a great place to put coins so they don’t end up on the floor, in the couch cushions and then baby’s mouth.
  • Never leave your child unattended in the bathtub. If the phone rings, let the machine get it!

 

 

Handling Expenses with your Au Pair

Miscellaneous Expenses

There are different ways to handle the little day to day expenses that may come up for an au pair.  Things like when she takes the kids out for ice cream or picks up a gallon of milk.  Some families keep a cookie jar fund, a little cash that they set aside weekly or monthly for this kind of expense.  Others give their au pair a debit card with a fixed amount on it that they can replenish. The point is to avoid the au pair spending her own money and then asking for reimbursement. Here are some suggestions for avoiding problems with expenses.

Host Families

  • It’s important to be clear about how long this money should last and what types of expenses are approved.
  • Let the au pair know whether or not you expect receipts.

Au Pairs

  • Only spend the money on approved expenses.
  • If it is something you are not sure about, ask first.
  • Put your receipts in the cookie jar in place of the money to avoid any confusion.

Gas and Fare Cards

Host families are responsible for the au pair’s transportation costs:

  • to and from classes
  • to and from cluster meetings
  • driving the kids

It is a good idea to figure out how much gas an au pair will use for these trips and either put gas in the car or give a gas allowance.   If your au pair is riding to classes or cluster meetings with another au pair, you should offer to share the cost of gas.

Au pairs are responsible for their own transportation at all other times, and should replace the amount of gas used for personal use.

Photo: Andrea Travillian

HELP KIDS FALL IN LOVE WITH THE OUTDOORS

Spring
Spring is in full swing: The buds on the trees have opened, birds are chirping, and children are eager to go outside and get muddy.

Unless, that is, they are like the fourth-grader author Richard Louv spoke to for his book “Last Child in the Woods.”

“I like to play indoors better ’cause that’s where all the electrical outlets are,” the child told Louv.

According to extensive research Louv and others have conducted since the 1980s, spending time in nature has tremendous benefits, including improved concentration, better motor coordination, improved overall cognitive functioning and a greater ability to engage in creative play. It has also been said to help with the symptoms of mental illness.

To that end, in 2008, the American Academy of Pediatrics issued a statement saying that 60 minutes of daily unstructured free play is essential to children’s physical and mental health.

Yet Erika Christakis, an early childhood educator at the Yale Child Study Center and author of “The Importance of Being Little: What Preschoolers Really Need From Grownups,” cites an alarming trend. A 2011 study published in the Journal of Pediatrics revealed that, on weekdays, the average preschooler spends more than four hours in front of a screen.

For older children, the numbers are even worse. According to a 2015 overview of teens, social media and technology from the Pew Research Center, 92 percent of teens report going online daily — including 24 percent who say they are online “almost constantly.”

“But needing play and knowing how to play productively can be two different things, especially in today’s world where so few children have long uninterrupted stretches of time with mixed-age groups, particularly outdoors,” she added. “We often err in assuming that natural behaviors like play unfold effortlessly without cultivation and support, and that’s simply not true.”

The feeling of the wind on your face can be a jumping-off point for a chat about science and the movement of air. The smell of impending rain is pleasant, and a way to teach your child about weather. The unforgettable taste of a ripe strawberry, fresh from the garden, can spark a conversation about seasonal eating. And the sound of various songbirds can teach your child about the diversity of the natural world.

“We’ve really lost our understanding that we are part of nature and connected to nature,” said Kacie Flegal, a chiropractor in Ashland, Ore., who specializes in pediatrics. “To become stronger adults, kids need to be outside and allow their bodies to do what they’ve been designed for from the beginning.

“We don’t want kids to get sick, of course,” she added. “But being outside, being in the elements and the dirt and being exposed to things, allows the immune system to develop so kids are stronger as they get older.”

Simply be in nature

Parents need to greatly increase the amount of time their children spend playing outdoors and with free objects found in nature, Christakis says. What’s more, she suggests that we leave them alone while they do it. Parents who are not yet comfortable letting their children out of sight should at least refrain from directing all outdoor time, she says; instead, try to give kids the time and space to explore and create their own adventures.

Sleep outside

Before mosquitoes make their way onto the scene, try sleeping in the open air. Or take a tent out into the back yard and bring only a flashlight and sleeping bag. Use the time to listen to the world around you and enjoy the fresh air.Researchers at the University of Colorado at Boulder found that sleeping outside, particularly away from artificial light, helps to reset circadian rhythms — the internal clock that regulates our bodies — and can reduce feelings of grogginess during the day.

Inspire by being inspired

One way to prioritize the natural world is to show great awe and enthusiasm for it. “The most effective way to connect our children to nature is to connect ourselves to nature,” Louv said in an email. Children take cues from their parents, so when they see their parent stop, bend down and observe a small caterpillar with interest, this thing suddenly becomes more interesting to them. Embrace being a curious human and be open to learning new things. Encourage your child to ask questions about nature, even if you don’t know the answers.

Check out “The Cloudspotter’s Guide” from your local library, pack up a comfortable blanket to spread in a field and spend the afternoon identifying cirrostratus and cumulonimbus clouds. Discuss weather events and the clouds that precede them. Or encourage children to use their imagination to tell you what they see in the clouds. If all else fails, just enjoy the view. At night, look up stargazing websites that can direct you, based on what month it is, to the constellations, then go out and try to spot them. Print out a “moon journal” page and chart the phases of the moon.

From butterfly gardens to back-patio tomatoes, there are opportunities to grow something almost anywhere. Grow vegetables and fruit from seeds in your back yard or in a shared community space. Allow your child to help prepare the soil, plant the seeds, water and weed. Start with plants that mature quickly, such as pole beans, and note their daily growth. This is the perfect opportunity to discuss where food comes from while spending time in nature. The bonus? A garden takes plenty of work, so there will be daily opportunities to be outside to enjoy it.

Make a fairy house

Adding a little magic and mystery can help children become more engaged with their natural surroundings. Encourage imaginative play through building tiny outdoor houses for “fairies” from various natural materials such as bark, sticks, stones, flowers, grasses, acorns and pine cones. Join your child and think of the endless possibilities: a pebble path, a fence made of sticks, a walnut-shell bathtub, even a little leaf hammock.

Explore a pond or stream

Kids are naturally drawn to water and will spend hours being near or in it. Plan to explore a natural body of water nearby. Bring a net, a jar and a shovel to dig for creatures in the mud, and encourage your child to catch small creatures to observe. Your child will find joy discovering the minnows, salamanders, crayfish, snails and insects that are abundant in these habitats.

Start a collection

Keep a nature table (either indoors or out) with jars or compartments for found items. Just be sure to check the rules and regulations of the area you are exploring to make sure it is okay to collect something. Be sure to have a conversation with your child about the concept of “Leave no trace” and the difference between picking up a dead branch from the ground, for example, and breaking one off a tree.

Take a hike

Go for a walk in the woods with your child. To extend attention spans during longer hikes, bring a small magnifying glass and a bug jar. Look for creatures along the way. Take your time. Try to spot 10 different insects, mammals, animal tracks or signs of animals hidden away.

Go barefoot

Walking barefoot can help your child develop a natural, healthy gait and optimize brain development, Flegal said. She recommends letting kids walk around without shoes to help them develop good balance and an awareness of where their body is in space. It is also a joy for the senses, whether on cool grass, warm sand or squishy mud.

“There are so many sensory perceptors in the feet that feed information into your brain,” Flegal said. “To get the best development of that system, it’s important to get different experiences through your feet.”

The Washington Post, May 3, 2016

Valentine’s Day in the USA!

Valentine'sDayValentine’s day is celebrated in the United States every year on February 14th. There are many stories and legends behind who the real St. Valentine was, but most scholars agree that he was a martyr who was killed by Roman soldiers because he was marrying people in secret at a time when marriage was outlawed.  Later in the Middle Ages, the great writer Geoffrey Chaucer wrote a poem as a present to King Richard II, who was about to be married. In it, he mentioned St. Valentine, and over time the idea of Valentine’s Day became associated with the idea of love.

During the Victorian times (in the 1800s), Valentine’s Day became extremely popular! Men and women spent a lot of time making beautiful Valentine’s cards with ribbon, fancy paper and even lace. In those days, people were very reserved and they did not often say what they were feeling. Valentine’s day gave them a way to express their feelings to someone they were in love with anonymously.  The sender would remain a mystery until they could speak more freely.

In the last few decades, Valentine’s day has changed a lot! Today we still exchange cards, but many people buy ready-made cards. We also give flowers or chocolates as a gift to remind people of our friendship and love for them. Most Valentine’s gifts and cards make use of the colors red and pink, and are decorated with images of hearts or roses. Another common symbol of love on this day is Cupid, the Roman god of love. He is usually shown as a little angel with a bow and arrow. According to legend, anyone who is struck by his arrows will fall in love.

Here are some links with ideas about how you can celebrate and have fun with the children you care for over the next couple of weeks!

Click here for Valentine’s Day Cards, coloring pages, recipes, crafts, games and puzzles: http://www.dltk-holidays.com/valentines/

Check out our Au Pair in America Pinterest page for Valentine’s Day for more ideas: https://www.pinterest.com/aupairinamerica/valentines-day/

Have fun!

CELEBRATING MARTIN LUTHER KING Jr.

MartinLutherKingMartin Luther King Jr. was the most important voice of the American civil rights movement, which worked for equal rights for all. He was famous for using nonviolent resistance to overcome injustice.  He also did all he could to make people realize that “all men are created equal.” Because of his great work, in 1964 King received the Nobel Peace Prize — the youngest person ever to receive this high honor. King was also a Baptist minister. He was assassinated in Memphis, Tennessee, when he was just 39 years old. His birthday is now observed as a national holiday on the third Monday in January. Congressman John Conyers first introduced legislation for a commemorative holiday four days after King was assassinated in 1968. Petitions endorsing the holiday containing six million names were submitted to Congress.  Public pressure for the holiday mounted during the 1982 and 1983 civil rights marches in Washington.  Congress passed the holiday legislation in 1983, which was then signed into law by President Ronald Reagan.

“I have a dream that my four little children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the color of their skin, but by the content of their character.”  – Martin Luther King

Here are some links with more information about the history of this holiday including a biography of Dr. King, a quiz for kids and a junior crossword.

http://www.infoplease.com/spot/mlkbiospot.html

http://www.infoplease.com/spot/mlkjrday1.html

To read the full I Have a dream Speech go to:

http://www.americanrhetoric.com/speeches/mlkihaveadream.htm

TIPS FOR DRIVING IN SNOW

If the snow &/or ice is heavy or threatening to become heavy, don’t go out. It is not worth the risk. Cancel, change plans, make due. If you must go out, keep the trip as short as possible, and follow these guidelines.
When there is snow &/or ice on the street:
1. If your car has been outside, warm up the car and clean the snow & ice off all windows & windshields using a brush & scraper (make sure your headlights and brake lights are snow free). Do not warm up a car in a closed garage.
2. Go more slowly than usual, and leave more time than you normally would to get where you’re going.
3. Keep a safe distance between you and the vehicle(s) ahead of you. Safe distance in snow is double the normal distance.
4. Turn your headlights on if it is snowing (and any time you use your windshield wipers). In heavy snow, fog lights might also be helpful (but not all cars have them).
5. Don’t make sudden or jerky movements with steering, and don’t accelerate or brake forcefully. This can cause you to slide and lose control.
6. If you start to slide or skid, take your foot off the gas pedal and keep steering & looking where you want to go. When you are headed the right way again and feel some traction, accelerate slowly (or brake slowly). If your wheels start to spin, take your foot off the gas pedal until you feel the tires grab again.
7. When you break, push the break gently. If you have anti-lock brakes, you will hear a thumping sound which is normal (it is the way the car prevents the brakes from locking up and making the situation worse). If you have regular brakes, pump them slowly, keeping your heel on the floor and the ball of your foot on the brake pedal (this helps you to be gentler because you are using only your foot, not your whole leg).
8. If you need to get out of a parking space with a lot of snow, you might need to “rock” the car, going forward a little, then back a little, over and over. Keep the wheels fairly straight, with only slight movements left or right. It is really difficult to get over snow when the wheels are turned hard to the left or right. If that doesn’t work, you may need to either shovel the snow out of the way or put down sand, kitty litter or gravel to get traction (some families keep a bag of this in the trunk).
9. Keep your gas tank at least ¼ full so that the gas line doesn’t freeze (if extra moisture gets in the line), and keep your windshield wiper fluid 1/2 full or more. You don’t want to run out of wiper fluid in the middle of the road with trucks spewing dirty slush onto your windshield.
10. Never use the cruise control in snow, ice or rain. It can cause the car to hydroplane and you could lose control.
Additional info from AAA:
http://exchange.aaa.com/safety/roadway-safety/winter-driving-tips

 

Caring for a Sick Child at Home

SickChildThe purpose of this article is to provide information and offer suggestions to au pairs with regard to caring for children who are ill. It is intended that au pairs discuss this information with their host parents as they might want to modify or expand on what is presented here.
When a child has less energy than usual, is unusually cranky, has less of an appetite, or just doesn’t seem him/herself, chances are the child is sick. Fever is a sign a child is fighting an illness or infection. Fevers are usually not serious and can be cared for at home. It is typical for younger children to run higher fevers than older children. Fevers are also often higher in the evening than in the morning. Be alert for rash, earache, stomachache or sore throat, as these may indicate more serious problems.
A child’s temperature can be taken orally, under the armpit, or with special thermometers only in the ear. Au pairs and host families should discuss the preferred method for that family. A child has a fever if the temperature is 99.4’F (37.4’C) when taken by mouth or under the arm. Be sure the thermometer is shaken down first, and left in place for 3 minutes in the mouth or 6-8 minutes in the armpit. Talk or read to the child while you are taking his/her temperature. Never leave a child alone with a thermometer.
When a child has a fever, he or she needs more rest than usual and should not be awakened. Quiet play is fine, but too much activity can aggravate a fever. Children should be dressed in light layered clothing. Liquids are very important – offer water, juice, fruit drinks, tea, popsicles, Jello or soup. Some children might enjoy stirring their tea with a lollipop, or having soda as a special treat. Host families and au pairs should discuss appropriate medication and desired dosage. Do not offer children aspirin; consider instead acetaminophen or ibuprofen, but only with the approval of a host parent. If a child’s fever is over 103’F, a lukewarm bath might be comforting. If a child vomits, offer small amounts of liquids, but no dairy products. Within the first 24 hours the diet should be limited to clear liquids, bananas, plain white rice, applesauce and plain toast.
When children are sick they will need an extra dose of patience, attention, affection and comfort even more than they need medicine or special diets. Although basic rules and discipline should not change, a child may be more dependent on adults when he or she is ill. Extra imagination and creativity is needed to keep a sick child entertained with quiet pastimes. Children will welcome novelties – use a baking sheet as a tray to assemble a puzzle in bed or to keep crayons from rolling away; create a story with stuffed animals and a flashlight under a blanket.
Warning signs – It is time to ask for more help if a child :
• has a fever higher than 104’F (40’C)
• is very cranky, sluggish or doesn’t awaken easily
• has trouble breathing
• is confused, or vomits repeatedly
• is unable to swallow or is drooling
• has a convulsion or seizure
• has dry lips, sunken eyes, little or no urine or dark yellow urine

Thanks to Etta Rosen for this article.

Holiday Gift Ideas, Crafts and Activities

ChristmasGiftsHoliday gifts do not need to be expensive to be appreciated. A handmade gift, especially if the children help you, can mean more than something purchased in a store.  Check these links to find inspiration– and have fun!

Check out these fun winter crafts– great for a snowy day at home!

And here are some fun winter activities to do with your kids:

HALLOWEEN

halloween-pumpkin-clip-art-free[1] What is it all about?

Halloween is celebrated across the United States on October 31st.  Not all,  but most families will participate in some aspect of the Halloween holiday traditions.  This may be a new experience for you so It is a good idea to talk to your host family ahead of time and find out how they celebrate. 

Like many other holidays, Halloween has changed throughout history. Over 2,000 years ago people called the Celts lived in what is now Ireland, the UK, and parts of Northern France. November 1 was their New Year’s Day. They believed that the night before the New Year (October 31) was a time when the living and the dead came together.

More than a thousand years ago the Christian church named November 1st All Saints Day.  This was a special holy day to honor the saints and other people who died for their religion. The night before All Hallows was called Hallows Eve. Later the name was changed to Halloween.

Like the Celts, the Europeans of that time also believed that the spirits of the dead would visit the earth on Halloween. They worried that evil spirits would cause problems or hurt them. So on that night people wore costumes that looked like ghosts or other evil creatures. They thought if they dressed like that, the spirits would think they were also dead and not harm them.

The tradition of Halloween was carried to America by the immigrating Europeans. Some of the traditions changed a little, though. For example, on Halloween in Europe some people would carry lanterns made from turnips. In America, pumpkins were more common. So people began putting candles inside them and using them as lanterns. That is why you see Jack ‘o lanterns today.

These days Halloween is not usually considered a religious holiday. It is primarily a fun day for children. Children dress up in costumes like people did a thousand years ago. But instead of worrying about evil spirits, they go from house to house. They knock on doors and say “trick or treat.” The owner of each house gives candy or something special to each trick or treater.

Here are some safety tips for next week:

  • Adult supervision is essential. Always accompany the children if they are going door to door to trick or treat
  • Try tick-or-treat-friendly homes. Ensure the children only visit houses with lights on. And, you might also suggest the houses they visit have some sort of Halloween decoration on the porch.
  • Stay outside. Make sure the children don’t go inside someone’s house. They can trick or treat on the porch.
  • Remain visible. Dress the children in bright costumes or have them wear reflective strips or carry a glow stick or flashlight.
  • Quality-check treats. Check the candy before they eat it. Throw out any candy that is not in its original wrapper or looks like it has been tampered with.
  • Say “no” to strangers. Remind the children to never accept a ride or go anywhere with a stranger.
  • Have a great time! Finally, make sure your kids have tons of fun and enjoy the night.