As we head into the Holidays, here are some tips regarding the holiday season and your au pair:
As Christmas and Hanukkah approach, it is important to remember that Au Pairs may feel homesick, even if they haven’t at other times. Certain people and places are missed, and our traditions and activities seem different.
Au Pairs’ emotions are often close to the surface at this time and the enormity of this year away from home may hit her hard.
You can help her through this unfamiliar territory by talking to her about what your family activities will be; for example, when the candles are lit, the stockings hung, the tree decorated, gifts given, meals prepared and eaten, relatives arrive or when you visit family. It would be very thoughtful to ask her if she has a favorite holiday food or tradition that could be incorporated into your celebration.
Talk to your Au Pair specifically about what has to be accomplished, get her involved and interested because this will ease her homesickness. Remember, her mother has probably taken this responsibility in previous years, so don’t expect her to just know what needs to be done. Give her some clear, agreed-upon assignments to make her feel a part of things. Let her know her contribution is needed and appreciated.
Consider the dynamics of the normal relationships you have all established and how the changes in holiday routine affects them. Parents at home, relatives visiting and children off at school. Different work expectations may be needed and this should be clearly discussed.
Socially, please remember the holidays are a time when Au Pairs want and need to be with their friends. This also helps their survival mechanism when they are missing old friends back home.
New Year’s eve in America is a very special occasion to an Au Pair, so open communication is very important as you decide on New Year’s Eve plans and the time off, if any, you can offer to your Au Pair.
I hope everyone has a wonderful Holiday season and that these tips letter will help you enjoy the season with your Au Pair.
by Dominique Ortiz