Monthly Archives: September 2013

Going Unplugged During Work Hours

Au Pairs – Imagine for a moment that you went to the hospital and you were in the care of doctors and nurses.  How would you feel if those doctors and nurses who were there to care for you were more interested in texting or using their personal computer than caring for you?  How would that make you feel, about yourself and about them?  Would you think that you were getting the treatment you deserved?  Would you feel like paying the bill after your stay?

Life as an au pair, it is a fine balance between employee and family member. You live with your host family and participate with them as a member of the family, but you also have clear responsibilities as a childcare provider. Being a childcare provider is truly one of the most important jobs I can think of, because you are helping to shape our next generation.  What message are you sending them when you would rather interact with a computer than with them? How will they feel about themselves and about you? Children feel as though everything is about them. They will see this as a rejection of them and they will be more likely to act out.

It also poses a safety concern when you are not paying enough attention to the children in your care.  Accidents happen, but when an adult care giver is close by and appropriately supervising the chances of a major injury dramatically reduce.

During work hours, the following would not be considered acceptable:
-Texting
-Talking to friends on the phone
-Chatting with friends online
-Using Skype or Facetime
-IMing
-Emailing
-Updating your status on Facebook
-Using Orkut, Google+, Studivz, SiempreGente or any other social media site
-Watching videos on YouTube (even my really fabulous ones)
-Tweeting on your Twitter
-Uploading photos on Instragram or Vine
-Anything else on the computer unless it is going to Nickjr.com together with your host children

Think about this — even if you work 45 hours a week, that leaves you 123 hours per week for all of that other stuff, or about 70 hours (if you are getting the recommended 7-8 hours of sleep per night.)

Host Parents – You need to be clear about what you consider acceptable during work hours to avoid misunderstandings.  Also, please understand that you are dealing with a new generation of people who are very accustomed to being plugged in at all times.  Their intention is not to be rude, they don’t necessarily realize how their actions will be perceived.  Please use this information as an opportunity to begin a dialogue on the issue.

Harvard university campus tour

Touching John Harvard's shoe for luck!

Touching John Harvard’s shoe for luck!

Au Pairs from the Boston area gather each year to tour the hallowed grounds of Harvard University.  On a beautiful September day over 80 girls came to Cambridge to learn about student life and the diversity of one Americas oldest and most prestigious schools.

Tour guides provided us with historical facts and stories.  Did you know that the statue of John Harvard (which by the way is not John Harvard, but a student who was asked to model, in the absence of any known pictures of John) is the 3rd most photographed statue in the country?   Want to guess what the top two are?    Needless to say the day was full of interesting facts and sights of Harvard!

click here for pictures  —-> Harvard Tour 2

How to feel good by investing in yourself

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If this article seems to be too much about “basic life skills” for your tastes, stop for a moment and think about people you’ve met who put little or no effort into their personal appearance. Think of people with bad breath or greasy hair and how your opinion of them subtly changed when you noticed these things. This advice is primarily for those people, but also as a reminder to everyone that the small efforts of personal appearance are tiny investments that do pay off.

Personal appearance is one of those subtle things that’s difficult to quantify. Mostly, it’s a collection of a lot of small investments of time and effort that add up to a slight but noticeable tweak in how people think of you. The difference is real, and over time these small differences in a lot of interactions and events can really add up. Keeping clean and keeping up a good appearance are also great ways to simply feel good – I know for me personally, few things make me feel better than a hot, soaking shower. Even better, personal appearance is something that you can maximize – or at least significantly improve – with just a bit of effort. Here are a bevy of little steps you should be taking to maximize the value of your personal appearance, from the obvious to the subtle.

Maintain a daily hygiene schedule.
For some people, setting aside time each and every day for basic personal hygiene is a challenge. They’re wrapped up in work, super-involved with their families, and have too many things going on, so they’ll just skip an evening shower and make things look all right in the morning, or they’ll simply fall into bed without thinking about it and then get up so late in the morning that they have to bolt out the door to start taking charge of their responsibilities.

Hygiene is important. Schedule some time each day to take care of things. I usually do my hygiene tasks the moment I wake up, and I have a litany of things that I go through as part of the routine. If you don’t have an established routine that is simply a fundamental part of your day, start one. Literally make a list of things to do and do them every day. That time you invest will pay off in the long run because you’ll be constantly providing a subtle positive cue to others about yourself – and you’ll feel better, too.

Take a bath or shower and clean thoroughly.
When I was in school, I bathed in a shared shower situation with a lot of other people and I witnessed people standing under the shower for a few minutes, flopping a bit of soap lather on themselves, rinsing it off, and getting out. If that sounds like your average shower, you need to start scrubbing a bit more. Lather up a washcloth with a lot of soap and use it to scrub down all of your body. Rub vigorously everywhere, then rinse. If the place produces significant odor, do it two or three times. Trust me – at the end of the day, this will leave you feeling much fresher than if you just take an ultra-quickie shower.

Don’t use antibacterial soap.
Antibacterial soap might kill off some of the bacteria on your skin, but that’s bad for two reasons. First of all, it lowers your own resistance to a variety of bacteria, making you more susceptible to bacteria-borne illness. Second, if a soap kills off 99.9% of bacteria, the 0.1% that’s left is going to be resistant to that soap and will thrive. In the words of Dr. Stuart Levy, a microbiologist at Tufts University: “Dousing everything we touch with antibacterial soaps and taking antibiotic medications at the first sign of a cold can upset the natural balance of microorganisms in and around us, leaving behind only the superbugs.” Use some quality soap, but don’t use antibacterial soap – it has no real benefit and may in fact make you sick over the long haul.

Brush your teeth and floss
One of the first things I notice about a person is whether their breath smells badly. For some people, this is a medical condition; for others, it’s a side effect of too much garlic. Either way, you can go a long way towards preventing it by practicing good oral hygiene. Brush your teeth every day and floss them, too.

A clean mouth and clean teeth give you a nice smile and fresh breath, both of which are major positives for one’s personal appearance. It just takes a good scrubbing in the morning to cause it, so don’t skip over brushing your teeth.

Use deodorant.
A scentless odor-blocking deodorant, preferably one that does an effective job of absorbing moisture, can do wonders for both minimizing any potential body odor and for keeping any moisture from appearing on your clothing. Most deodorants work pretty well for the average person – don’t overthink it, just apply it.

Keep your hair clean and trimmed evenly

The important thing is to keep it clean. Clean hair, even if it’s a bit disheveled or not cut perfectly, does wonders for a person’s appearance. When you take a shower or bath, give your hair a thorough scrubbing.

Minimize body artwork unless it clearly doesn’t matter or is beneficial to your career.
I’ve personally witnessed this body art causing a social stigma for them, if they have several pieces visibly evident beyond their clothing. They could be avoided on the street, passed over for work promotions, and could face various subtle social stigmas because of the art.

If you choose to have body art, be aware that for many people, such art is in fact a social stigma and that you will suffer for it in various ways, both subtle and non-subtle. In some careers and some social strata, body art is inconsequential or even encouraged, but this is far from true for all careers and all social strata. In a nutshell, be very careful of the long-term consequences if you are considering some form of permanent body art.

Dress well

At a minimum, make sure what you’re wearing is clean and presentable, though, as people will visit and draw a number of conclusions based on your appearance

Greet everyone you meet, smile, and willingly engage in conversation.

All of this only takes a few moments, but it creates a very positive impression of you in a social sense, particularly when combined with good hygiene and good appearance. It only takes a few greetings from a well-scrubbed person to develop some level of positive feelings towards that person, and that’s something that’s always good to have in your corner.

Here’s the bottom line: keep yourself clean and presentable, dress well, and interact positively with others. It takes time, effort, and a bit of money to pull that off, but if you do, you’ll create an overall positive impression of yourself with everyone you interact with, and that positive impression is something very, very valuable to have.

Sukkot 2013: 5 Facts You Need To Know About The Jewish Harvest Holiday

Sukkot3 The Jewish holiday of Sukkot will begin at sundown on Wednesday, September 18, and end at nightfall September 25. Wikimedia Commons

Chag Sameach!

That’s the greeting Jews will be saying this evening when the Jewish holiday of Sukkot or the “The Feast of Tabernacles” begins. The weeklong agricultural festival begins at sundown on Wednesday, Sept. 18, and ends at nightfall, Sept. 25, also known as 15-21 of Tishrei 5774, according to the Hebrew calendar.

For those unfamiliar with the festival of Sukkot, below are five answers to common questions surrounding the harvest holiday:

1. What does Sukkot mean?

The word Sukkot, pronounced “Sue COAT,” means “booths” in Hebrew. It refers to temporary dwellings that Jews lived in for 40 years while wandering in the Sinai Desert after their exodus from Egypt. During that time, the Hebrew Bible describes how the huts shielded them from the outside elements. The holiday holds metaphorical meaning, representing how fragile we are and to appreciate the shelter of our homes and bodies.

2. How is it celebrated?

Sukkot is one of the three biblically mandated holidays in the Jewish calendar. Described in Leviticus 23:33-44, Jews are commanded to “live in temporary shelters” for seven days. These huts, called sukkahs, are normally built in backyards with branches as a roof-covering. For seven days and nights, all meals are to be eaten in the sukkah, some even sleep in the shelter during that time.

Throughout the festival Jews are commanded to hold four plants and wave them together during the holiday: the etrog (fruit of the citron tree), lulav (palm frond), hadas (leaves from the myrtle tree), and aravah (leaves from the willow tree). The practice harks back to the time of the ancient Temple in Jerusalem, when similar customs were performed.

sukkot The Jewish holiday of Sukkot will begin at sundown on Wednesday, September 18, and end at nightfall September 25. Wikimedia Commons

While first day of the holiday is considered a holy day where no work is to be performed, the seventh day is called Hoshanah Rabah. In synagogue, Jews circle the room seven times while the four plants are held and special prayers are recited.

A ritual derived from medieval times is Ushpizin or the welcoming of guests in to the sukkah. While it’s common to invite “earthly guests” to share a meal in the sukkah, the Kabbalah practice is a spiritual one where each night the family welcomes one of the “Seven Shepherds of Israel” — Abraham, Isaac, Jacob, Moses, Aaron, Joseph and David – that represent seven different sefirot, or divine energies, such as love, discipline and beauty.

3. How is a sukkah built?

A sukkah must have three walls and can be any size so long as it’s large enough to dwell in it. The roof plays particular importance. It must be made from sekhakh, a material that comes from the ground like tree branches, bamboo reeds, sticks or two-by-fours. These must be the last items used in the sukkah and should be spread out far enough to see the stars, but no more than 10 inches apart.

In the United States, sukkahs are typically decorated using harvest vegetables such as hanging dried squash and corn. Sukkahs are typically built on porches, backyards, courtyards, lawns, balconies and rooftops. There should be nothing between the sukkah and the open sky – no trees, canopies or roofs blocking view.

While some families opt to build their sukkahs from scratch, there are prefabricated ones and materials that are easy to assemble.

4. What’s to eat?

Since Sukkot is a harvest holiday, the menu includes dishes related to the autumn harvest. In the United States, Sukkot recipes incorporate apples, pears, sweet potatoes, carrots and other root vegetables. Stuffed foods like kreplach (stuffed dumplings) are another popular dish during the holiday, representing the overflowing abundance of food during the harvest.

5. What do you say?

Chag Sameach, which translates to, joyous festival, is a common greeting during Sukkot and other holidays including Shavu’ot and Passover. Unlike the recently observed Yom Kippur or Day of Atonement, Sukkot is a celebration that is commonly referred to as zeman simchateynu, the “season of our joy.”

Whale watching September cluster meeting

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From left: Poly and Gianin from Germany , Judith from Austria and Anna R from Germany

From left: Poly and Gianin from Germany , Judith from Austria and Anna R from Germany

From left: Tami, Isabella, Anna F, Veronika from Germany and Petra from the Check Rep.

From left: Tami, Isabella, Anna F, Veronika from Germany and Petra from the Czech Republic.

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Anka from Germany with Nawal from France

Anka from Germany with Nawal from France

Elina from Russia with Lynn from Germany

Elina from Russia with Lynn from Germany

Caren from Namibia with Amy-Louise from South Africa

Caren from Namibia with Amy-Louise from South Africa

Michaela and Sophie from Germany who just arrived a few days ago in the USA to start their aupair year

Michaela and Sophie from Germany who just arrived a few days ago in the USA to start their aupair year

Erika from Brazil with Rebekka from Germany

Erika from Brazil with Rebekka from Germany

Nawal from France with Priscila from Brazil, who just started her second aupair year

Nawal from France with Priscila from Brazil, who just started her second aupair year

Poli and Gianin from Germany. Gianin is an Educare aupair who provides up to 30 hours of childcare per week and will need to get 12 credits at an accredited school during her first aupair year.

Poli and Gianin from Germany. Gianin is an Educare aupair who provides up to 30 hours of childcare per week and will need to get 12 credits at an accredited school during her first aupair year.

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Crew members explained the vertebrae bones of a whale to the people on board

Crew members explained the vertebrae bones of a whale to the people on board

For more pictures please go to : Whale watching 2013

Meeting with new aupairs in our Boston cluster

In several meetings I could welcome sooo many new aupairs who started their year as aupair in our Boston cluster. Here are Pia and Rebecca from Germany who got information at our meeting from Katja who started her second year as Educare aupair, Michaela who also started her second year in the standart program and Violetta who also will extend her aupair year starting in December in the Sharon area.

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P1030891 - CopyFrom right: Mariana from Mexicol who told the new aupairs a bit about her year as an aupair, which is almost done. I could welcome Pieta from Finnland, Luz from Colombia, Sophie from Germany, Allison from France, Hannah from Malaysia and Michaela from Germany.

Miriam reached the requirements for the year of her educational part: 6 credits at an accredited college of university and received her certificate.

Mariana reached the requirements for the year of her educational part: 6 credits at an accredited college of university and received her certificate.

Yom Kippur

Yom Kippur 2013 begins in the evening of

Friday, September 13
and ends in the evening of Saturday, September 14

Yom Kippur also known as the Day of Atonement is the most solemn and important of the Jewish holidays. Its central themes are atonement and repentance. Jewish people traditionally observe this holy day with a 25-hour period of fasting and intensive prayer, often spending most of the day in synagogue services.

Yom Kippur is considered one of the holiest of Jewish holidays and it is observed by many secular Jews who may not observe other holidays. Many secular Jews fast and attend synagogue on Yom Kippur, where the number of worshippers attending is often double or triple the normal attendance.

Please pass along a little information to your au pairs who are with Jewish families, it’s nice for them to know that this is such an important holiday.Here are a couple of links with more information:

http://www.timeanddate.com/holidays/us/yom-kippur

http://judaism.about.com/od/holidays/a/yomkippur.htm

and for children http://www.akhlah.com/holidays/yomkippur/yomkippur.php

Hints for Success – Homesickness/Culture Shock

Almost everyone experiences culture shock when they come to a completely new environment. Everything is different: the language, the food, and the people. 

Here are my Top 5 Tips for
Dealing with Homesickness
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1. Make Friends – Don’t wait for other au pairs to reach out to you, reach out to them. There are other lots of new au pairs who are feeling the same way you are right now. Set a goal to reach out to a few of them each day. Some will respond and some will not. Don’t let that discourage you. No one will ever be mad at you for sending them a message to say hello or ask if they want to do something together. Make friends from various countries and you will also get a chance to practice your English skills together.

2. Stay in touch with your home country, but not too much. Skyping or talking on the phone every day with your family and/or friends back home normally makes homesickness worse. Try emailing instead and reduce the Skype and phone calls to once a week, until you feel stronger. It’s much harder seeing the faces and hearing the voices of those you miss.

3. Get out of the house (or your room specifically) – Go to cluster meetings, have coffee or movies with other au pairs, join a gym, go to the library, go for a walk, visit the mall, get a manicure, visit a museum. If someone invites you out, say “yes.” Also, don’t be afraid to do the inviting. If your host family invites you to do things with them, say “yes.” This will help you get to know each other and contribute to your overall happiness.

4. Realize that it definitely gets better – All au pairs experience homesickness and nearly all of them stay and have a successful year (some stay for two years.) So, it must get better, right? Once you get past the initial homesickness, most au pairs report how quickly the year goes by.

5. Make Plans – Create your own Au Pair Bucket List (places you want to go, new foods to try, new things to experience during your year in the U.S.) and start doing them now. Post on our cluster Facebook group to find others who may want to join you on your adventures.

Contest: Au pairs in my cluster, make your Au Pair Bucket List and send me a file, link or picture of it for a chance to win a $20 Starbucks gift card. Entries must be received by October 1’st. Winner will be announced at the October 6 cluster meeting.

Labor Day

The first Monday of September is known as Labor Day in The United States of America.

It is a holiday very similar to May Day, as it honours the achievements of workers. But unlike May Day, which is a tribute to working class only, Labor Day is a tribute to the entire workforce.

Labor Day originated in Toronto in April 1872 with the first workingmen’s demonstration organized by the Toronto Trades Assembly. Ten years later, in July, a parade took place in Toronto and Peter J. McGuire of New York was invited to hold a speech. Upon his return to NY he proposed an official celebration to honor workers, and in September 1882 Central Labor Union held its first Labor Day celebration in New York City.

In 1884 first Monday of September officially became Labor Day and over the years it has been celebrated with parades, fireworks and festivals; slowly losing its political connotations and becoming an unofficial end of summer holiday.