Monthly Archives: December 2017

Suffolk Au Pairs Celebrate the Holiday Season!

  Sunday December 10th the Suffolk Au Pair in America      Au Pairs celebrated the holiday season with a party at           Senior Community Counselor, Cindy Garruba’s home.  


Each au pair prepared a dish from their country for the International Feast!  So much yummy food and everyone enjoyed tasting the treats from so many countries!  Lively conversation followed the feast!

We played a game with some prizes.  Everyone placed a paper plate on their head and had to try and draw a Christmas Tree, fireplace with a stocking and a present under the tree! 

We had a grab bag exchange and played the left right gift exchange T’was the Night Before Christmas Game!  Lots of fun and giggles through the game and everyone got a grab bag gift!  Cindy handed out gifts of travel mugs, hot chocolate, candy cane and marshmallows.

Cindy congratulated Suppatra “Nink” from Thailand for finishing her 2 years as an APIA au pair with her host family in Southampton. 

Stony Brook Holiday Festival Enjoyed by APIA Families & Au Pairs

Sunday, December 3rd was the annual Stony Brook Village Holiday Festival.  This year APIA was one of the sponsors of the festival.  Host families and au pairs came together to decorate the APIA International Peace Tree.  Decorations were made by au pairs and host children.

Santa arrived on a fire truck and then listened to the wishes of the children.

The new 14 foot tall Legends and Spies parade came next.  The parade celebrated the Culper Spy Ring of Setauket that helped win the Revolutionary War for America’s independence.  Also featured was Ward Melville, the Stony Brook businessman, conservationist and philanthropist. He supported the restoration and preservation of historic buildings in the area to encourage his vision of a New England village in Stony Brook.  The event was run by the Ward Melville Heritage Organization.

Their are 70 trees on the Promenade of Trees that will be on view until the New Year!  The day included a petting zoo, music, and a model train exhibit. 

The day concluded with Santa and friends lighting the big tree on the Village Green!

Avoiding Homesickness this Holiday Season

Homesickness can be a problem during the holidays, even if it hasn’t been at any other time of the year. Au pairs often miss their friends and family, familiar places and their own traditions and customs. The holiday activities in the United States seem, and may actually be, different just at a time when an au pair would welcome something familiar. 

It is common for au pairs’ emotions to be close to the surface during the holidays. Her highs are higher, her lows are lower. The enormity of what she has done–actually living in another country (which is an amazing thing when you think about it!)–hits her and throws her into a self-protective mode.

Host parents can help her through this unfamiliar territory by talking to her about what your specific family activities will be (gifts, meals, visitors, religious services, in-home traditions, or none of these, as the case may be.) In the spirit of cultural exchange, ask her if she has any favorite holiday traditions or foods that you might be able to incorporate into your family’s celebration of the season. Let her know what you will be doing, when you will be doing it, and what she can expect. Talk to her about what has to be accomplished and get her involved and interested. Don’t expect her to just “know” what needs to be done. Give her some clear, agreed upon assignments. Make her feel a part of things. And, let her know her contribution is needed and appreciated.

Photo: Sheila Sund (Flickr)