Author Archives: Agnes Barton

Halloween Fun!

Halloween is fast approaching! There are many ways that you can make this time fun and interesting for both you and the children you care for! COVID might change how we celebrate, but there are lots of ways to have fun at home with each other this season!

Au Pair in America has captured a wonderful array of projects you can work on together. You can find them on our Halloween Fun Pinterest board! Try making a collection of glowing pumpkins using jars from the host family’s recycling! You’ll need clean jars, liquid glue, orange tissue paper, some paint, black construction paper or cardstock and a strand of lights or battery operated tea lights.

If you have a collection of plastic pumpkins for trick or treating, place them on a shelf or table and dress them up! Baseball hats, party hats, tiaras, fire fighter hats, pirate hats and more will help you create a fun display! Dig through the dress up collection for some great options or make some of your own with craft supplies!

 

Check out the Pinterest board for some great ideas like:

Photos by Philip James and Mootsie

Where To Get A Flu Shot

Many au pairs and host families are looking for places to get flu shots this time of year. Au Pair  insurance does not cover immunizations, but there are lots of places to get flu shots for $35 or less.  If the host family is insisting that an au pair get a seasonal flu shot and she agrees to get it, the host family would be responsible for the expense.

If you are planning to get the seasonal flu vaccine, it is recommended that you get it as early as possible.

The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) has extensive info available online Key Factors About Seasonal Flu Vaccine.


Fairfax County Health Department

Loudon County Heath Department

Prince William County Health Department


Flu shots are also available for a fee at pharmacies such as Target, CVS, Rite Aid, Walgreens, Harris Teeter, Safeway, Costco, etc. Click the individual store for a link to each website.Several offer the option to schedule an appointment and download and print forms to complete ahead of time.

REMEMBER:

Your health insurance DOES NOT cover preventative care. If you choose a place like Target that advertises “free” or even a $5 coupon, they will bill your insurance and it will be denied, leaving you with the financial responsibility.

ALWAYS discuss the out of pocket cost. Tell them you DO NOT have medical insurance coverage for preventative care. The cost will vary between $20-50 typically.

Photo: Jen Vargas

Back to School – Traditional, Hybrid & Virtual

Kids in our cluster are returning to school, in person or virtual. This means changes to the au pair schedule and possibly to the duties.  It is very important to communicate these changes to avoid problems.

I suggest you discuss the following (if applicable). Remember to tailor it to the particular student/s. If you are doing virtual learning, hybrid or back to a regular schedule:

Regular classes:

Au pair’s work schedule. Remember that all program rules apply, even in a pandemic. Not more that 45 hours over a week, not more than 10 hours in any one day and not more than 5.5 days per week, with one full weekend per month off (minimum).

  • The children’s school and activity schedules.
  • Mask supplies and procedures.
  • Where the children get dropped off and picked up and who will be doing this.
  • What to do if a child is staying home sick, late to school, does not get off the bus (if they are supposed to).
  • How to tell if school has been canceled or delayed for bad weather.
  • Add the au pair to your list of people allowed to pick up the kids from school.
  • What to pack for lunch (don’t forget the cold packs). Note any allergies in the classroom to be aware of as well.
  • The routine after school (do they have free time before starting homework, what to give for snack, any chores, where do they put their backpacks & lunchboxes).
  • How to communicate about what’s going on at school.
  • Specific instructions for driving on and off school grounds, where to park, direction of travel. Do you get out or does staff open the doors, etc.
  • Discuss timing. When does your au pair need to leave the house to get to the bus stop or drive to the school?

Hybrid or Virtual:

Au pair’s work schedule. Remember that all program rules apply, even in a pandemic. Not more that 45 hours over a week, not more than 10 hours in any one day and not more than 5.5 days per week, with one full weekend per month off (minimum).

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  • Discuss the packing and wearing of masks.
  • Where will the student/s work?
  • How to access student logins, passwords, etc.
  • Share the communications from the teachers regarding weekly schedule, class updates, deadlines, etc.
  • What to do if there are issues with log in.
  • They finished school early and have time before the next log in…what activities?
  • If you have multiple kids and multiple schedules, please work with your au pair to find balance in the day and develop time management supports as needed.
  • Where are supplies being kept? General as well as school supplied items.
  • Know that the first days will have many challenges and possible connectivity issues. Deep breaths all around.
  • Remember that this is confusing to us as parents. Add into the mix English as a second language. Have an abundance of patience as we all move forward.
  • Remember that the au pair should not be solely in charge of education. She is not a teacher in the State of Maryland and you, as parents, need to be involved and in charge.
  • Remember that most au pairs did not come with the intent of taking on full schooling activities as part of their au pair year. This is hard for all of us. Kudos for the au pairs that have persevered to walk through this pandemic with us!
  • Let me know if you need help! I’m navigating this too!

Online Supports

Homework:

If the au pair will be the one going through the children’s back pack and helping with homework, I suggest you designate an area for putting things that need to be read and/or signed by parents.

School Buses:

Remember to discuss school bus safety and the rules about driving when school buses are near.  Stopping when the lights flash and the stop sign comes out unless the road is divided, etc.

For more safety info regarding school buses, visit the National Safety Council website. 

Consumer Reports  has additional info and check out this great visual on how to move in traffic with a school bus. This is a very important discussion to have with your au pair. Sarah and I will be sharing this info with the au pairs as well, but it’s important that we all discuss school safety.

 

School lunches:

If your students will be packing lunches, now is a good time to have a conversation about what packing lunches looks like in your family. Prepacking lunches could be helpful to for our virtual learners. One less task to complete in the middle of a hectic day.

  • Make lists of foods and amount.
  • Show your au pair the types of containers you use and how you prefer the lunch bag to be packed.
  • Discuss what to do when they get home from school. Will the au pair or child unpack the lunchbox?
  • Do you pack some items ahead for the week (snack bins, cut up hearty veggies, etc)?
  • Do you pack the night before or in the morning?
  • Discuss the time needed to complete these tasks in the morning if that is your preference.
  • Don’t assume she will just know what you prefer.
  • If you are virtual, but picking up lunches from the school, make sure you have completed the form allowing the au pair to pick up the lunches if you are asking her to do so. Make sure that you fully discuss all safety rules and info on how, where and when to pick up the school lunches.
  • Check out the APIA Pinterest boards for more lunch ideas!
  1. 100 non sandwich ideas!
  2. 100 school lunches your kids will want to eat!
  3. 25 Lunchbox ideas!

Reminder: It is illegal in the State of Maryland for a child under the age of 8 to be left alone in the home or car.  Please make sure that your drop off routine does not include leaving children under 8 at home or in the car while dropping off another child.  Even if a host parent gives permission to do this, it is not allowed, because it is against the law.

Photo by Jens Rost

Photo by Jens Rost {flickr}, State Farm {flickr} and Woodleywonderworks {flickr}

Going Home

Most au pairs have mixed feeling about returning home. As the program end nears, there is both excitement and nerves about adjusting to life at home.

Adapting to life back home will include some of the same emotions experienced with adjusting to life in the United States, such as:

  • Homesickness (this time for your American family and friends)
  • Rejecting things that are cultural norms in your home country
  • Adapting to a new environment and routine
  • Accepting your new situation

How do you prepare for going home? While you have been away, things at home may have changed. You have certainly changed, and after adapting to the American culture, you must adapt again to your own culture. Here are some tips to consider as you prepare for the journey home:

  • Be flexible as you think about life back home, give yourself time to adjust, and don’t expect it to be easy every day.
  • Let yourself be sad and feel the loss of friends and family.
  • Reflect on your experience and acknowledge what you have gained and learned during your au pair year.
  • Focus on positive ways you have grown.
  • Make a list of the skills you have acquired or strengthened as an au pair.
  • Make your new resume!
  • You made it! Celebrate and be proud of your au pair achievements.
  • Going home is not the end of something….it’s the beginning of something new.

 

Camp Au Pair – Dinosaurs

This week’s Camp Au Pair theme is Dinosaurs.

Crafts, recipes, activities, and games related to dinosaurs can all be found here on the Camp Au Pair – Dinosaurs pinboard.

Consider these awesome activities –

Field Trips can be a great way for kids to learn and have new experiences. Here are a few places to go, that fit this theme:

Videos – Look for fun videos on YouTube about dinosaurs. Dinosaurs for Kids is a great video that explains dinosaur history and what paleontologists do.

The Good Dinosaur, Land Before Time and Ice Age are all great family movies that fit with this theme. For older kids, consider movies like Journey to the Center of the Earth and Jurassic Park (which is rated PG-13).

Books – Stop by your local library and look for books on dinosaurs.

Photo: aaron parecki {flickr}

Camp Au Pair – Space!

Get ready to blast off as we explore outer space this week! Ready for some serious fun? How about creating the phases of the moon with Oreo’s, exploring solar system mazes or building a space shuttle with recyclables? Try creating outer space themed lunches and snacks, flashlight constellations and answering the questions on “If I Could Be An Astronaut!”

Our Pinterest board is FULL of great ideas for you to use to explore outer space from the comfort of your own home! Moon rocks are optional!

Field Trip Options:

Webcams – You can do a google search for websites with webcams which allow you to observe space. Here is one from the International Space Station to get you started.

Videos – Look for fun videos on YouTube about outer space. Solar System 101 is good for school aged kids. The Planet Song is for toddlers and preschoolers. WALL-E, Zathura, Monsters vs. Aliens & Star Wars are all great family movies that fit with this theme. For older kids, movies like Hidden Figures and the Martian too, both are rated PG-13.

Books – Stop by your local library and look for books on outer space.

Photo: AGeekMom

Camp Au Pair – Nature Exploration

Now for some fun in nature!!! Get out and explore a bit, collect some treasures along the way! Most of these activities are easily created using items likely already around the house, but you may need to plan ahead a bit to have supplies on hand! Check with your host family about getting supplies to use!

How about leaf bowls using air dry clay? Leaf painting mandala?  Create a birdfeeder or make a suncatcher?

How about creating a twig raft? Creating Nature Journals? Maybe a pocket sized nature collection?

So many great ideas! Check them out on the Au Pair in America Pinterest boards here!

Check out your library (or Amazon) for great books about the outdoors! Backpack Explorer: On the Nature Trail.  How about, My First Book About Backyard Nature: Ecology for Kids!

Check out the cool videos at Bob’s Pennsylvania Wildlife Camera 

Consider joining in the Free Forest School outings near you! Free Forest School ignites children’s innate capacity to learn through unstructured play in nature, fostering healthy development & nurturing the next generation of creative thinkers, collaborative leaders & environmental stewards.

Photo by Cynthia Chan

Swim Safety Tips – American Academy of Pediatrics

Swimming is a fantastic form of exercise and a major component of many spring break trips and summer break fun. But parents should remember that swimming also comes with risk. Follow these tips from the American Academy of Pediatrics to protecting children from drowning.

POOL SAFETY

  • Never leave children alone in or near the pool or spa, even for a moment; close supervision by a responsible adult is the best way to prevent drowning in children. Designate a “water watcher” who is not distracted or under the influence of drugs or alcohol to watch children in and near the water.
  • Whenever inexperienced swimmers are in or around water, an adult – preferably one who knows how to swim and perform CPR – should be within arm’s length, providing “touch supervision.”
  • Install a fence at least 4 feet high around all four sides of the pool. The fence should not have openings or protrusions that a young child could use to get over, under, or through.
  • The safest fence is one that surrounds all 4 sides of the pool and completely separates the pool from the house and yard. If the house serves as the fourth side of the fence, install an alarm on the exit door to the yard and the pool. For additional protection, install window guards on windows facing the pool. Drowning victims have also used pet doors to gain access to pools. Keep all of your barriers and alarms in good repair with fresh batteries.
  • Make sure pool gates open out from the pool, and self-close and self-latch at a height children can’t reach. Consider alarms on the gate to alert you when someone opens the gate. Consider surface wave or underwater alarms as an added layer of protection.
  • Keep rescue equipment (a shepherd’s hook ­– a long pole with a hook on the end — and life preserver) and a portable telephone near the pool. Choose a shepherd’s hook and other rescue equipment made of fiberglass or other materials that do not conduct electricity.
  • Avoid inflatable swimming aids such as “floaties.” They are not a substitute for approved life jackets and can give children and parents a false sense of security.
  • Children over age 1 may be at a lower risk of drowning if they have had some formal swimming instruction. However, there is no evidence that swimming lessons or water survival skills courses can prevent drowning in babies younger than 1 year of age.
  • Everyone should learn to swim – Participation in formal swim lessons can reduce the likelihood of childhood drowning death by 88%
  • The decision to enroll a child over age one in swimming lessons should be made by the parent based on the child’s developmental readiness and exposure to water, but swim programs should never be seen as “drown proofing” a child of any age.
  • Avoid entrapment: Suction from pool and spa drains can trap a swimmer underwater. Do not use a pool or spa if there are broken or missing drain covers.  Ask your pool operator if your pool or spa’s drains are compliant with the Pool and Spa Safety Act. If you have a swimming pool or spa, ask your pool service representative to update your drains and other suction fittings with anti-entrapment drain covers and other devices or systems. See PoolSafely.gov for more information on the Virginia Graeme Baker Pool and Spa Safety Act.
  • Large, inflatable, above-ground pools have become increasingly popular for backyard use. Children may fall in if they lean against the soft side of an inflatable pool. Although such pools are often exempt from local pool fencing requirements, it is essential that they be surrounded by an appropriate fence just as a permanent pool would be so that children cannot gain unsupervised access.
  • If a child is missing, look for him or her in the pool or spa first.
  • Share safety instructions with family, friends and neighbors.

BOATING SAFETY

  • Children should wear Coast Guard approved life jackets at all times when on boats, docks or near bodies of water.
  • Make sure the life jacket is the right size for your child. The jacket should not be loose and should always be worn as instructed with all straps belted.
  • Blow-up water wings, toys, rafts and air mattresses should not be used as life jackets or personal flotation devices. Adults should wear life jackets for their own protection, and to set a good example.
  • Adolescents and adults should be warned of the dangers of boating even as a passenger when under the influence of alcohol, drugs, and even some prescription medications.
  • Children follow your example, whenever you are on a boat – everyone, kids and adults should wear a life jacket.

OPEN WATER SWIMMING

  • Never swim alone. Even good swimmers need buddies!
  • A lifeguard (or another adult who knows about water rescue) needs to be watching children whenever they are in or near the water. Younger children should be closely supervised while in or near the water – use “touch supervision,” keeping no more than an arm’s length away.
  • Designate a “water watcher” who is not distracted or under the influence of drugs or alcohol to watch children in and near the water.
  • Make sure your child knows never to dive into water except when permitted by an adult who knows the depth of the water and who has checked for underwater objects.
  • Never let your child swim in canals or any fast-moving water.
  • Ocean swimming should only be allowed when a lifeguard is on duty.
  • Teach children about rip currents. If you are caught in a rip current, swim parallel to shore until you escape the current, and then swim back to shore.
  • Be aware that pools and beaches in other countries may not have lifeguards, and pools may have unsafe drain systems. Supervise children closely.
  • At the beach, stay within the designated swimming area and ideally within the visibility of a lifeguard.
  • Be aware of rip currents. If you should get caught in one, don’t try to swim against it. Swim parallel to shore until clear of the current.
  • Seek shelter in case of storms. Get out of the water. Get off the beach in case of lightning.

Copyright © 2018 American Academy of Pediatrics.

Photo: Gordon {flickr}, eLLen {flickr}, Bradley West {flickr}, R Muller {flickr}

Camp Au Pair – Bucket List & Under the Sea Fun!

Summer has arrived! Time for Camp Au Pair!!

Let’s make a bucket list!

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Summer has arrived! Kids are home! Time to get your plans written down and make the most out of your summer days with your host kids! Here’s a great way to make sure you have lots of fun, perhaps learn some new things, and make a bunch of memories together!

Start by creating a bucket list! Bucket lists are a great way to brainstorm a bunch of ideas and then make them happen! Check out some great bucket list ideas like this one or this fun one!

Now for some under the sea fun!! Most of these activities are easily created using items likely already around the house, but you may need to plan ahead a bit to have supplies on hand! Check with your host family about getting supplies to use!

Create a sensory beach exploration pool!

Practice scissor skills with this super cute octopus craft!

How about some under the sea slime?

Coffee filter rainbow fish!

How about paper bag jellyfish? Toilet paper rolls transformed into a school of fish? So many great ideas! Check them out on the Au air in America Pinterest boards here!

Webcams – You can do a google search for aquariums and zoos across the country (and world) with webcams which allow you to observe sea creatures. Here is one to get you started.

Videos – Look for fun videos on YouTube about sea creatures. There’s more to see than Baby Shark. You can learn 10 Fun Facts About Turtles in this video. Movies like Finding Nemo, Dolphin Tale and the Little Mermaid also go well with this theme.

Books – Stop by your local library and look for books on sea creatures. The Rainbow Fish is a classic children’s book, your kids may already own.

Overcoming Homesickness

Almost everyone experiences homesickness and culture shock to some degree, when they come to live in a completely new environment. So much is different and it takes time to adjust.

It is normal to miss your own family, at home. Try to remember that they support you and want you to make the most of this experience. They will enjoy learning more about the U.S., through your eyes, as you share your adventures with them.

Top 5 Tips for Dealing with Homesickness

1. Make Friends – Don’t wait for other au pairs to reach out to you, reach out to them. There are other lots of new au pairs who are feeling the same way you are right now. Set a goal to reach out to a few of them each day. Some will respond and some will not. Don’t let that discourage you. No one will ever be mad at you for sending them a message to say hello or ask if they want to do something together. Make friends from various countries and you will also get a chance to practice your English skills together.

2. Stay in touch with your home country, but not too much. Skyping or talking on the phone every day with your family and/or friends back home normally makes homesickness worse. Try emailing instead and reduce the Skype and phone calls to once a week, until you feel stronger. It’s much harder seeing the faces and hearing the voices of those you miss.

3. Get out of the house (or your room specifically) – Go to cluster meetings, have coffee or movies with other au pairs, join a gym, go to the library, go for a walk, visit the mall, get a manicure, visit a museum. If someone invites you out, say “yes.” Also, don’t be afraid to do the inviting. If your host family invites you to do things with them, say “yes.” This will help you get to know each other and contribute to your overall happiness.

4. Realize that it definitely gets better – All au pairs experience homesickness and the vast majority of them get through it, stay and have a successful year (some even extend for a second year!) So, it must get better, right? Once you get past the initial homesickness, most au pairs report how quickly the year goes by.

5. Make Plans – Create your own Au Pair Bucket List (places you want to go, new foods to try, new things to experience during your year in the U.S.) and start doing them now. Post on our cluster Facebook group to find others who may want to join you on your adventures.

Photo by:  Shimelle Laine (Flickr)