Monthly Archives: November 2018

American Experiences – Thanksgiving

At Thanksgiving, we pause and express gratitude to others.  This year I want to thank all my au pairs and host families for the love and support they give each other every day.  I also thank each au pair for sharing with me and my family about their culture, for demonstrating their bravery for coming from far away places and giving so much to their host families and their friends in America.

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I appreciate the uniqueness of each of you. Your spirits, sense of humor, enthusiasm. It is an honor to be a part of your lives for this time and beyond. I love the relationships that have developed that last after an au pair returns home. I am thankful for the warm, caring host families in Southern Maryland who welcome some of the most wonderful young women into their homes and entrust the care of their children to them.  Host families who inspire, encourage, celebrate, cultivate and share their culture and customs. Host families that embrace each new au pair as a unique and special person. Host families that encourage an au pair to share her culture and customs and incorporate it to their family life. It is a beautiful thing to witness.

“The people-to-people ties and transfer of knowledge achieved through international education builds and sustains a more democratic, secure, and prosperous world that benefits the entire global community. International education and exchange is vital to our diplomacy efforts and establishes lasting ties between individuals today that translate into stronger relations between nations tomorrow.” -Assistant Secretary of State for Educational and Cultural Affairs, Evan Ryan

Some thoughts from au pairs current and departed about Thanksgiving:

“I didn’t know that thanksgiving was such a big holiday before I spent my year there. It was a really nice day. We started off with breakfast, cooking and baking in our pajamas and then we got ready and we were all dressed really chic and went off to my host mums part of the family in DC. There we had a lovely dinner with everything you can imagine! Everybody also had to say for what he or she is thankful, we were around forty people and it was so nice to hear about everybody.”

thanksgiving-dinner-plate-c-chan‘I was super curious on Thanksgiving and what it was like. It felt like something truly American and I had never tasted turkey or pumpkin pie before (which I had learnt you ate a lot of during Thanksgiving) since we went to Chicago and I got to meet a huge part of my hm’s family that was also something I really looked forward to! So the whole holiday was all food, food and some more food! And ALL kinds of pies! I believe there might have been around 7-8 different pies. I had a great thanksgiving!”

“Thanksgiving was actually one of my most favorite holidays in the states. We went to Ohio to spent it with family. Watching Macy’s parade while cooking the dinner and baking some pie. After eating the fantastic food watching some football and then of course some Black Friday shopping it was amazing!!”

“I really enjoyed Thanksgiving with my host family. It was as I imagined! So much food to try. Everyone got dressed up and shared what they were thankful for. It was so warm and special. The next day we began to prepare for Christmas. It was magical.” johnny-flickr

“I am really excited to be with the whole family. To see everyone gathered around the table. I am so happy thinking about the foods, some I have never tried. I am curious about pumpkin pie. I want to cheer football too and maybe shop on Black Friday!”

“I am looking forward to experiencing the traditions. All the family coming, sharing good things and food….my host mom says there will be so much food!”

I wish each and every one of you a Happy Thanksgiving!

Photos by: Loren Kerns – Flickr, Cynthia Chan, Johnny – Flickr

Host Family & Au Pair Day at Jefferson Patterson Park & Museum!

Our annual Host Family Day was a hit! We joined in the festivities at the American Indian Heritage Day at Jefferson Patterson Park and Museum.

Au pairs from Germany, Jamaica, Namibia, Panama and Poland attended, many along with their host families!

Activities included bead making from clay and shells, grinding corn, preparing venison stew, traditional dances, decorating faces, corn husk doll making, archery and so much more!

What Does An Au Pair Do

This is NOT a comprehensive list.  If additional clarification is required, please contact Cynthia.  The best matches follow the Host Family / Au Pair Agreement.

DO NOT negotiate outside of the State Department Guidelines.

The Au Pair’s top priority is the care and safety of your children –

everything else will be a lower priority!

Within Au Pair Program Expectations Outside Au Pair Program Expectations
Child Care Activities

  •  Wake children
  • Dress children
  •  Feed children
  •  Play with children
  • Prepare meals for children
  • Bath children
  • Keep children clean and safe
  • Organize play groups
  • Supervise homework
  • Care for children during travel
  • Grocery shopping as needed (shouldn’t be the sole person)

Light Housekeeping

  • Make children’s bed
  • Change/wash children’s sheets
  • Pick up toys
  • Straighten children’s room
  • Clean up kitchen after children’s room (sweep, Swiffer mop)
  • Straighten/organize playroom
  • Wipe down children’s bathroom
  • Wash/put away children’s laundry
  • Tidy up after children
  • Help in preparation and clean up of family meals or other activities

Flexible Schedule

  • Flexible schedule (at least one week schedule in advance needed)
  • Available for sick days, snow days, and holidays

Au pair’s total hours worked per week revised to reflect unexpected changes in schedule.

Driving

  • Drive children to and from school
  • Drive children to and from appointments
  • Drive children to activities

Treat your Au Pair as a Family Member –

 this is a Cultural Exchange Program!

 

Housework

  • Mop and vacuum entire house
  • Scrub children’s bathroom
  • Dust entire house
  • Clean windows
  • Wash/put away laundry for adult family members
  • Housework unrelated to children
  • Prepare dinner for entire family daily
  • Pick up dry cleaning for adult family members
  • Housecleaning on Monday – if toy pick up and kitchen were left untidy by family over weekend
  • Sole responsibility for family chores:  garbage, recycling, mail, empty/load dishwasher, grocery shopping.

Au Pair Schedule

  • Hours can’t be carried over week to week

Work >45 hours per week/  > 10 hours per day for additional pay

Other Children

  • Request au pair to care for children not listed on the  APIA contract (family or friends)
  • Request an au pair to organize play dates with children she is not comfortable supervising  Parent of the play date friend should be available to au pair if needed

Pet Care

  • Request au pair to care for pets on “free time”
  • Request an au pair to train a
  • Request an au pair to care for pets over family holiday while she stays at the house

Age Limit

  • Request and au pair to prepare meals, laundry or chore for children over the age of 18.

Driving

  • Request au pair to serve as a driving teacher or serve as a responsible adult for non licensed driver
  • Charge au pair maintenance of car (Federal Mileage Calculation not applicable.