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Crazy American Expressions

“I’m Beat”      (I’m super tired)

“He hit it out of the ballpark!”     (he did amazingly well)

“Don’t flake out”      (Don’t fail to show up!)

“Let’s go Dutch”     (split the bill and each pay half)

It’s one thing to learn a new language, it’s another to submerge yourself fully into the culture where that language is spoken.  We U.S. Americans use some pretty ridiculous phrases!  So next time you are “down in the dumps” because you can’t figure out a slang phrase,click over to  https://idioms.thefreedictionary.com/,  and look it up!

Interested but don’t have any specific phrase to research?  Before you “take off,”  check out this article where you can learn 25 phrases that you probably didn’t learn in your English Class back home.   https://www.weareteacherfinder.com/blog/english-idioms-colloquialisms-guide/

 

Happy Lunar New Year!

Lunar New Year begins tomorrow, February 5, and sparks the Year of the Pig.

Lunar New Year is celebrated widely throughout Asia.  It begins on the second new moon after the Winter Solstice and is celebrated until the first full moon of the lunar year, 15 days after the celebrations begin.

Sometimes known as the Spring Festival, traditions include:  visiting family and gathering for meals, especially the New Year’s Eve Feast; gifting children and young adults with special red envelopes containing money; fireworks or lantern displays, accompanied by a Dragon Dance, especially on the last night of celebration.

Individuals born in the Year of the Pig are known for the following traits:

  • Successful, hard-working, responsible, diligent, energetic and enthusiastic
  • Friendly, generous, and compassionate
  • Realistic, calm, sometimes thrifty, though materialistic, and prefer to handle things properly and carefully.

Sharing Cultures: If you’d like  to celebrate Chinese New Year with your host children (or with your Au Pair friends), check out these websites for more information:

  • Chinatown

One of the largest Chinese New Year celebrations in the United States!

951 N. Broadway, Los Angeles

Saturday, February 9, 12noon to 8pm, Free!

lagoldendragonparade.com

 

 

  • Pacific Asian Museum

46 N. Robles Ave., Pasadena, In various areas of the museum

Sunday, Feb. 3, 10 a.m., Free!

https://pacificasiamuseum.usc.edu/calendar/details/?event-id=1525835

 

 

  • The Original Farmer’s Market & the Gove LA

click here for flyer

6333 W 3rd St., Los Angeles

Sunday, Feb. 17, 12noon to 5 p.m., Free!

https://www.farmersmarketla.com/

 

Halloween

 The tradition of celebrating spirits of the dead, especially in the autumn, is largely universal to a variety of different world religions and cultures.  Though specific legends and beliefs vary, by 1930’s America, several of those celebrations of the dead were cobbled together to form the version modern-day Halloween, as well as the days that follow.

In the United States, universal Halloween traditions are celebrated by carving jack-o-lanterns, hanging spooky decorations, dressing in costumes, Trick-or-Treating, and eating lots and lots of candy.  A secular (non-religious) holiday, Halloween is celebrated mostly by children, parents, and young adults across the nation.  Evangelical Christians, however, find the holiday abhorrent and will avoid it.

Halloween seems to have originated mostly in Europe and came to the Americas initially with the first white settlers.  Over the years, related fall festivals from other parts of the globe have been incorporated and the holiday has evolved.  Wearing costumes and telling fortunes on the ancient Celtic harvest festival of Samhain, Catholic festivals commemorating martyrs and souls of the dead, the 17th-century British custom of wearing a mask and attending bonfires on Guy Fawkes Day, The lighting of a Yahrzeit Memorial Candle to honor the dead in Jewish tradition, the tradition of cooking the favorite foods of and bringing out photos of deceased loved ones on Mexican Dia de los Muertos, as well as the offering of sweet foods to prevent spirits from becoming angry during the Festival of Hungry Ghosts in China, have all lent a piece of themselves to create the holiday that we know today.

On November 1, Christians celebrate All Hallows’ Day, also known as All Saints Day.  Central to All Saints’ Day is the belief in the “Communion of Saints,” that all of God’s people, living and passed, are re-connected. On this day, congregants pray for and honor not only the saints they are already familiar with, but also the many unknown and unsung Saints.  All Soul’s Day, the Catholic day to remember the dead, comes on Nov. 2 or as in many churches, the following Sunday.  It is thought to have grown out of the tradition of celebrating the “martyrdom of saints during Roman times.  This is when Christians honor all the “Holy Ones, known and unknown.” Some churches set up an Altar of Remembrance, with the names, photos and / or objects reminding us of our deceased loved ones.  Candles are also sometimes lit and flowers placed at this alter, as might also be done by families at the cemetery where family members rest.

Most of the holiday is celebrated on the afternoon and evening of October 31st, and many families do not celebrate at all on November 1st or 2nd.  The biggest part of Halloween is Trick-or-Treating.  Costumed children ask for treats with the phrase “Trick or treat”. The “treat” is usually some form of candy or snack or maybe a tiny toy. The “trick” is an idle threat to perform mischief on the homeowners or their property if no treat is given. Some teenagers might throw eggs, smash jack-o-lanterns or put toilet paper in neighbors’ trees.  But this is generally discouraged by all adults, including the police, for obvious reasons.

For some good fun with the children of any age this Halloween season, watch the animated special “It’s the Great Pumpkin, Charlie Brown,”  make scarecrows and carve or paint jack-o-lanterns, discuss their Halloween costume plans, and maybe have them help you make a costume for yourself.  Adult costumes are almost always optional, and it can be great fun to get into the spirit of it.

Be sure to follow some safety precautions, though, especially in regard to Trick-or-Treating.  The California Highway Patrol (Police) puts out a list of safety tips specifically regarding Halloween that is very helpful.  If you are taking the children out Trick-or-Treating be sure to bring light-sticks or include reflective tape on their costumes as well as carrying a flashlight.  Be sure shoes are tightly tied and all costume elements are secured.  Don’t allow the children to step inside a stranger’s home, and never allow the children to eat any candy until you return home and examine it in the light for any signs of tampering.  If you are staying home to greet guests, be sure to leave a bright porch light on, keep the candy right next to the door so you don’t leave trick-or-treaters unattended and don’t open the door if the trick-or-treating party who rang the bell does not include at least one child (or someone you know).  When you run out of candy or no longer want to answer the door, turn off the porch light and any bright decorations, and trick-or-treaters will stop ringing the bell.  If you are out in the community, please don’t drink alcohol (well, maybe a single beer if you are over 21 and not driving).  Drive extremely carefully, as there are people on the streets everywhere.  And be vigilant when meeting new people who are in costume; It’s great to make new friends, but they are strangers that look different from how they normally do.  Have fun and keep it safe!

 

Happy Groundhog Day!

This Friday, February 2nd, is Groundhog Day  … but what is this strange custom?

The Delaware Indians of Pennsylvania considered groundhogs, which have long been plentiful in the Pennsylvania area, to be honorable ancestors.  In the Delawares’ legend of human creation, their ancestral forefathers began life as animals within the earth, and emerged during their evolution into human form.  The groundhog is also known as the Woodchuck, or the marmota monax, is a member of the squirrel family, and naturally feeds upon green plants, such as dandelion, clover, and grass.

Settlers of German ancestry arrived in the same Pennsylvania area in the 18th century, bringing with them the tradition of “Candlemas Day,” which falls halfway between the Winter Solstice and the Spring Equinox.  Custom held that if the sun came out on that day, which fell on February 2, six weeks of cold wintery weather would follow.

Over time, it became the custom of the Pennsylvania Germans to watch a badger on this day to see if the sun was bright enough to cast a shadow in front of him.  Mixing with the local native American’s reverence of the groundhog, by 1886, a groundhog was selected and dubbed Punxsutawney Phil.

Today, residents of Gobbler’s Knob, Pennsylvania keep the tradition alive by caring for the groundhog whose full name is “Punxsutawney Phil, Seer of Seers, Sage of Sages, Prognosticator of Prognosticators, and Weather Prophet Extraordinary.”  His handlers, John Griffiths and Ben Hughes, state that “Phil weighs 15 pounds and thrives on dog food and ice cream in his climate-controlled home at the Punxsutawney Library.  Up on Gobbler’s Knob, Phil is placed in a heated burrow underneath a simulated tree stump on stage before being pulled out at 7:25 a.m. to make his prediction.”

Each year, the Punxsutawney Groundhog Club hosts a three-day celebration of entertainment and activities celebrating Punxsutawney Phil. The recording of Phil’s predictions has been kept consistently since 1900, and according to Stormfax.com, his predictions are correct 39% of the time.

 

Hints for Success – Overcoming Homesickness

Almost everyone experiences homesickness and culture shock to some degree, when they come to live in a completely new environment. So much is different and it takes time to adjust.

It is normal to miss your own family, at home. Try to remember that they support you and want you to make the most of this experience. They will enjoy learning more about the U.S., through your eyes, as you share your adventures with them.

Top 5 Tips for Dealing with Homesickness

1. Make Friends – Don’t wait for other au pairs to reach out to you, reach out to them. There are other lots of new au pairs who are feeling the same way you are right now. Set a goal to reach out to a few of them each day. Some will respond and some will not. Don’t let that discourage you. No one will ever be mad at you for sending them a message to say hello or ask if they want to do something together. Make friends from various countries and you will also get a chance to practice your English skills together.

2. Stay in touch with your home country, but not too much. Skyping or talking on the phone every day with your family and/or friends back home normally makes homesickness worse. Try emailing instead and reduce the Skype and phone calls to once a week, until you feel stronger. It’s much harder seeing the faces and hearing the voices of those you miss.

3. Get out of the house (or your room specifically) – Go to cluster meetings, have coffee or movies with other au pairs, join a gym, go to the library, go for a walk, visit the mall, get a manicure, visit a museum. If someone invites you out, say “yes.” Also, don’t be afraid to do the inviting. If your host family invites you to do things with them, say “yes.” This will help you get to know each other and contribute to your overall happiness.

4. Realize that it definitely gets better – All au pairs experience homesickness and the vast majority of them get through it, stay and have a successful year (some even extend for a second year!) So, it must get better, right? Once you get past the initial homesickness, most au pairs report how quickly the year goes by.

5. Make Plans – Create your own Au Pair Bucket List (places you want to go, new foods to try, new things to experience during your year in the U.S.) and start doing them now. Post on our cluster Facebook group to find others who may want to join you on your adventures.

Photo by:  Shimelle Laine (Flickr)

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