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Pattie Fitzgerald on Children’s Safety

As a part of the Gooden School’s Parent Education Live Speaker Series, children’s advocate, author, and founder of Safely Ever After, Inc., Pattie Fitzgerald will speak on on Thursday, November 15 at 6:30 p.m. Pattie is recognized as a leading expert in the field of childhood sexual abuse prevention education, child abduction prevention, and internet safety education. You can read more about Pattie Fitzgerald here

Thursday, November 15 at 6:30 p.m.

The Gooden School , 192 N. Baldwin Avenue, Sierra Madre, CA 91024

Admission is free, but space is limited; RSVP by Nov. 12  to GFA@goodenschool.org.

Flyer – Pattie Fitzgerald EXTERNAL

Flu Shot Time!

Now is the time to discuss getting the flu shot with your host parents.  The “Flu” is generally thought of as a routine illness that makes you feel lousy for a week or two.  But the reality is that “Influenza” is an historically deadly illness in America.  Each year, different strains of the flu are passed from person to person.  Some years and in some people, the flu is not much worse than the common cold.  Some years, thousands of people accorss the US end up in hospitals with dangerous respiratory viruses that began as the flu and ended up as pneumonia or other dangerous complications.

According to WebMD, the Flu is “an extremely contagious respuratory illness…[that] appears most frequently in winter and early spring.  The flu virus attacks the body by spreading through the upper and/or lower respiratory tract.”  Symptoms of the flu include high fever, body aches, fatigue, weakness, and an increased likeliness of contracting pneumonia.  Flu symptoms can come on abruptly, and are extremely contagious.

New strains (or types) of the flu evolve every few years.  Scientists at the CDC (or Centers for Disease Control, a well-respected agency that is an off-shoot of the Federal Department of Health and Human Services) study and re-work the flu vaccine every year to tweak its components and make it effective against the up-and-coming version of the flu.  It is the reccommendation of the CDC that every healthy person in the US over the age of 6 months receive the flu shot.  

The influenza vaccine was invented in 1938 and has had varying degrees of effectiveness over the years.  In 1976, however, amid a very-well-reported bad outbreak of the flu, the US goverment injected a large amount of additional $$ funding into developing a more effective version of the vaccine.  The vaccine has developed steadily into an essential way of staying healthy.  It has been reccommended for virtually all children and adults since 2010.

There are many  anecdotal reports of people “getting sick from the flu shot.”  I’m sure we have all heard stories attesting to incidents of this happening.  Concerned, I began asking every doctor I knew about this.  To a person, they all told me that people cannot possibly get the flu from the flu vaccine.  But if they offered a reason for this social debate, I still couldn’t understand it. Until I asked my son’s pediatrican.  Dr. Peggy Legault is a very well respected doctor in Passadena who seems to believe in cautious action and logical analysis.  It all finally made sense to me when she told my wife and I that people don’t get sick from the flu shot, they get sick from going to the doctor’s office.  It makes sense: you go to a place where sick people go; you touch the door handle; you use their pen to sign in; you wipe a tear from your eyes after the shot; a week later you feel sick.

I strongly urge every Au Pair to do three things this month:  

  1. Read about the flu shot from a respected independant source such as the CDC website.  Walgreens and Rite Aid also offer very good information, but their goal is to sell you the vaccine.  Thte Washington Post newspaper also offers a good independent article about flu shots.
  2. Think about the children in your care and know that if you get the flu you will upset their routine dramatically for one to two weeks while you are stuck in bed not able to care for them.  Discuss vaccination with your host parents and ask them if they will pay for it.  There are many places you can get a flu shot for free, but even if you end up paying for it, it usually costs around $30.  Most host parents will be happy to pay for the vaccine to protect you, and those who don’t want to pay for it are usually able to help you find a free one.
  3. Get the flu shot in an open public place, but don’t touch anything.  When you go into the clinic or pharmacy, only touch a door handle, pen or desk when you need to.  Be extremely concious of what your hands are doing, and don’t touch your face, especially your mouth or eyes.  Bring antibacterial gel or use their’s, and thoroughly wash your hands with soap and water after you leave.  For extra credit, wash change and wash your clothes and shoes when you get home.  By using a few minutes of extreme caution, You will prevent yourself from getting sick!

And just so you know that I “practice what I preach,” my whole family got our flu shots last week.  My son went to his pediatrician, where our insurance covered the cost.  My wife and I went to CVS where getting the shot was much quicker and easier than going to our doctor’s office, it was $38.

Halloween

 The tradition of celebrating spirits of the dead, especially in the autumn, is largely universal to a variety of different world religions and cultures.  Though specific legends and beliefs vary, by 1930’s America, several of those celebrations of the dead were cobbled together to form the version modern-day Halloween, as well as the days that follow.

In the United States, universal Halloween traditions are celebrated by carving jack-o-lanterns, hanging spooky decorations, dressing in costumes, Trick-or-Treating, and eating lots and lots of candy.  A secular (non-religious) holiday, Halloween is celebrated mostly by children, parents, and young adults across the nation.  Evangelical Christians, however, find the holiday abhorrent and will avoid it.

Halloween seems to have originated mostly in Europe and came to the Americas initially with the first white settlers.  Over the years, related fall festivals from other parts of the globe have been incorporated and the holiday has evolved.  Wearing costumes and telling fortunes on the ancient Celtic harvest festival of Samhain, Catholic festivals commemorating martyrs and souls of the dead, the 17th-century British custom of wearing a mask and attending bonfires on Guy Fawkes Day, The lighting of a Yahrzeit Memorial Candle to honor the dead in Jewish tradition, the tradition of cooking the favorite foods of and bringing out photos of deceased loved ones on Mexican Dia de los Muertos, as well as the offering of sweet foods to prevent spirits from becoming angry during the Festival of Hungry Ghosts in China, have all lent a piece of themselves to create the holiday that we know today.

On November 1, Christians celebrate All Hallows’ Day, also known as All Saints Day.  Central to All Saints’ Day is the belief in the “Communion of Saints,” that all of God’s people, living and passed, are re-connected. On this day, congregants pray for and honor not only the saints they are already familiar with, but also the many unknown and unsung Saints.  All Soul’s Day, the Catholic day to remember the dead, comes on Nov. 2 or as in many churches, the following Sunday.  It is thought to have grown out of the tradition of celebrating the “martyrdom of saints during Roman times.  This is when Christians honor all the “Holy Ones, known and unknown.” Some churches set up an Altar of Remembrance, with the names, photos and / or objects reminding us of our deceased loved ones.  Candles are also sometimes lit and flowers placed at this alter, as might also be done by families at the cemetery where family members rest.

Most of the holiday is celebrated on the afternoon and evening of October 31st, and many families do not celebrate at all on November 1st or 2nd.  The biggest part of Halloween is Trick-or-Treating.  Costumed children ask for treats with the phrase “Trick or treat”. The “treat” is usually some form of candy or snack or maybe a tiny toy. The “trick” is an idle threat to perform mischief on the homeowners or their property if no treat is given. Some teenagers might throw eggs, smash jack-o-lanterns or put toilet paper in neighbors’ trees.  But this is generally discouraged by all adults, including the police, for obvious reasons.

For some good fun with the children of any age this Halloween season, watch the animated special “It’s the Great Pumpkin, Charlie Brown,”  make scarecrows and carve or paint jack-o-lanterns, discuss their Halloween costume plans, and maybe have them help you make a costume for yourself.  Adult costumes are almost always optional, and it can be great fun to get into the spirit of it.

Be sure to follow some safety precautions, though, especially in regard to Trick-or-Treating.  The California Highway Patrol (Police) puts out a list of safety tips specifically regarding Halloween that is very helpful.  If you are taking the children out Trick-or-Treating be sure to bring light-sticks or include reflective tape on their costumes as well as carrying a flashlight.  Be sure shoes are tightly tied and all costume elements are secured.  Don’t allow the children to step inside a stranger’s home, and never allow the children to eat any candy until you return home and examine it in the light for any signs of tampering.  If you are staying home to greet guests, be sure to leave a bright porch light on, keep the candy right next to the door so you don’t leave trick-or-treaters unattended and don’t open the door if the trick-or-treating party who rang the bell does not include at least one child (or someone you know).  When you run out of candy or no longer want to answer the door, turn off the porch light and any bright decorations, and trick-or-treaters will stop ringing the bell.  If you are out in the community, please don’t drink alcohol (well, maybe a single beer if you are over 21 and not driving).  Drive extremely carefully, as there are people on the streets everywhere.  And be vigilant when meeting new people who are in costume; It’s great to make new friends, but they are strangers that look different from how they normally do.  Have fun and keep it safe!

 

Women’s Self Defense Class

Learn to defend yourself against a potential attacker, and feel more confident while traveling in unfamiliar cities.  Only $25 for a two-hour workshop that may have life-long impact.   

Saturday, August 25 @ 3pm  and

Saturday, September 29 @ 3pm

So Cal Kenpo Karate, Sierra Madre

Master Katie Williams Robinette will take everyone through basic striking techniques that will help you defend yourself from many bad situations. In the course of two hours you will be equipped enough to be aware of your own body and how to use it!

Volunteer for the Santa Monica Classic

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The Santa Monica Classic 5K, 10K, and Kids Run are just around the corner, coming to the beautiful Santa Monica Pier on Sunday, September 9th! Be a part of this unique, sellout race that kicks off the Conqur LA Challenge.

Volunteers are needed for the following days:
– Saturday, September 8, 2018 – Pre-Race Packet Pickup (Reed Park)
– Sunday, September 9, 2018 – RACE DAY @ the Start Line, Finish Line, and Water Stations

Au Pair In America Volunteers will be handing out water at one of the mile markers.  Typically, volunteers are given a hat and/or a shirt or some other sort of nice “swag.” The LA Marathon was reported by APIA Volunteers to be an Amazing event.

Get more info

Sign up to Volunteer with the APIA group! (select water station stop at the top of the page)

 

Celebrating the 4th of July!

 

Known as the Fourth of July and Independence Day, July 4th has been a federal holiday in the United States since 1941, but the tradition of Independence Day celebrations goes back to the 18th century and the American Revolution (1775-83). In June 1776, representatives of the 13 colonies then fighting in the revolutionary struggle weighed a resolution that would declare their independence from Great Britain. On July 2nd, the Continental Congress voted in favor of independence, and two days later its delegates adopted the Declaration of Independence, a historic document drafted by Thomas Jefferson. From 1776 until the present day, July 4th has been celebrated as the birth of American independence, with typical festivities ranging from fireworks, parades, and concerts to more casual family gatherings and barbecues.

May is National Water Safety Month

 

With summer right around the corner, now is a good time to remind yourself of important water safety guidelines.  It is important for all adults in the children’s lives to be on the same page about swimming pool rules, and an even better idea to use a Water Watcher Card for each child you take to the beach or pool.

According to Stop Drowning Now, a national water-safety organization, a Water Watcher Card is an important lifesaving tool.  “The Water Watcher Card is to be worn by a responsible adult whose only job is to actively supervise the children in the water for a specific amount of time ([such as] 15-minute shifts).  Water watcher tags are critical during parties or large gatherings. In 94% of the instances when a child drowns, adults thought another adult was watching the child. Water watcher tags are helpful in taking the guesswork out of “who is watching the children.“*[ http://www.stopdrowningnow.org]

A Water Watcher Card is a laminated reminder card attached to an elastic bracelet or lanyard.

Several different versions are available as free downloads:

or you can order them already made:

Brush up on important swimming safety tips:

“8 Life-Saving Water Safety Rules Every Parent Needs to Know” (Parents Magazine)

“Water Safety” (Kids Health)

“The Ultimate Guide to Swimming Safety For Kids” (Mom Loves Best)

“13 Water Safety Tips Every Parent Should Know” (via Buzzfeed)

Water Safety: Tips for Parents of Young Children” “Healthy Children.org)

Things to do

I love my son, but sometimes he drives me totally nuts!  This past long weekend is a perfect example.  All he wanted to do, it seemed, was lay on the sofa in his pajamas and watch TV.  I couldn’t even get him to play legos with me, a pastime we often enjoy together.

Finally, as I was cleaning up, I spied a board game that we had recently purchased but hadn’t played yet.  I waited until his TV show was ending and suggested we play the game.  Surprisingly, he jumped at the chance!

While we were playing it occurred to me that I hadn’t been reading the Mom Websites much lately.  Then I realized that I had been waiting for my son to come up with ideas on what to do, rather than telling him what our plans are.  He’s not a very creative kid, so asking him to come up with ideas on his own doesn’t usually work.  I discovered long ago that I have to give him options to choose from.

Had I planned ahead, this lazy weekend could have been avoided.  We could have been out in the community having fun and learning new things.  But I forgot to plan something.

If any of this sounds familiar to you, you might appreciate the attached listing of Things To Do Locally.  The first section is how to find things to do in the area with children, and the rest will help you find out more about what is going on in your community so you can explore on your own.

things to do locally

A little bit of planning ahead, and offering two or three options to the kids to have input on can make a huge difference!  And to be clear, the options offered should never be: “Do you want to go to this event with me?,” but rather: “When we go out this afternoon, do you want to go to Event A or Event B?”

So, when you have time, explore the Mom Websites listed and sign up for some newsletters.  The site will email you when something cool is happening in your area.